Genevieve King

Small steps, Big changes, Part 4: Location and Collaboration

Hi there ☀️ 

Coming up next in this mini series on taking small steps toward big changes, let's talk about the Where and Who of it all.

Do we know who all might be impacted by these changes? What ripple effect might it have on other partners, friends, family or wider community? How might we coordinate get...

Small steps, Big changes, Part 3: Timeline and Pacing

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Today, I'm continuing my series on taking small steps toward big changes. This week, I explore the logistical but also sometimes emotional When of it all. What is the timeline for making a change? What is a comfortable pace, and why? And can everyone equally agree on this, or do some people have mor...

Small steps, Big changes, Part 2: Why do we want this?

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Today, I'm continuing my series on taking small steps toward big changes. This week, I offer some prompts and considerations for the Why of it all. What are our motives? What are all the internal and external pressure points?

I use the same five examples from 2023-08-06 10:15:39 +0000 UTC View Post

Small steps, Big changes, Part 1: What is the goal?

Hello and happy Sunday, I hope you're having a lovely day. ☀️

I'm starting a series on taking small steps toward big changes. It's an often requested topic that always felt daunting to try to cover in one or two videos. So I'm spacing it out, giving it more breathing room, in hopes that it can be a bit more digestib...

After a breakup, what about our mutual friends...?

Good morning and happy Sunday, I hope you're having a beautiful day and a beautiful weekend.

Today, by request, let’s explore potential ripple effects of breakups. Since we usually have mutual connections with our ex, how does the split impact those other dynamics?

Are we scared of anyone getting stuck in the mi...

LIVE CHAT: On Boundaries vs Demands, One Penis Policy, and Proving Fears Wrong

Here's the video and transcript from yesterday's Live Chat! The next one will be some time mid/late autumn, I hope to see you there again.

Chapters:

• 00.00 Intro / Differences between boundaries and demands
• 10.38 Format for check ins?
• 13.30 On double standards and proving fe...
  2023-07-17 13:32:03 +0000 UTC View Post

On Coming Out, Friendships in Adulthood, and how Hyper-Individualism hits our Fears of Abandonment...

I hope you're having a nice weekend (and if not, I do hope you have a person or people around to lean on).

Recently, a penpal suggested he could interview me from a patron's point of view, so I said, "sure, why not!" During the chat, we discuss things like coming out, making friends in adulthood, and how hyper-individua...

Is anything causing Compassion Fatigue?

Good morning!

I hope you're having a beautiful day and a lovely weekend. This past week, I made a ~60 second public video on compassion fatigue, and a lot of people said they relate. So, I made a longer video to explore the topic a bit deeper.

While I've experienced it numerous times in my life, I also can only im...

Bonus Resource: Poly Pages podcast

Hi! I hope you're having a lovely Sunday and a great weekend. 

A lot of people ask for more podcast recommendations, but the space is surprisingly limited when it comes to non-monogamy. You might enjoy this three-season podcast by 2023-06-25 10:29:59 +0000 UTC View Post

What if partners communicate really differently?

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Today's video is patron-requested, which always makes me happy. I want to create resources that apply to your current situations, to the best of my ability.

Let's dig in a bit about how we talk to our closest relationships. More specifically, what if they have a really different way of expressing the...

10 Signs it's Probably Going Well

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I hope that your weekend is going great. And if it’s not, I hope you’re still able to find a few bright spots of relaxation wherever you can.

Let’s talk about green flags today. This could be with newer people, when you're just getting to know them, or maybe your relationship with a long term p...

Are you putting yourself second?

Hello and happy Sunday, I hope you're having a beautiful day and a beautiful weekend. ☀️

Some weeks back, after the case study I posted on learning to say no, there were a few requests that I share some lower stakes examples, especially in romantic or sexual relationships. So today, I'll explore more nuance around s...

"I hate this... when does it get easier?"

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I hope you're having a lovely weekend. Today, I'm answering a question that I get kind of a lot: “when does it get easier? I'm having a hard time, when do I stop struggling so much?” It's a broad question, but I will do my best to offer some feedback with examples. Hopefully it can be helpful, if you o...

LIVE CHAT: On Coping with "Firsts", Comparisons, and Wanting More Time Together

Here's the video and transcript from yesterday's Live Chat! The next one will be some time mid/late summer, I hope to see you there again.

Chapters:

00.00 Intro
00.52 How to mindfully separate from a distrustful partner?
04.08 Coping with dates who don't want heavy talks
06.13 We tried re...

Polyam-Friendly Kids' Book: "A Color Named Love" (Ellery & Reschke)

Hi and happy international Mother's Day (if that's a thing you celebrate, or are)!

Being child-free myself, most of the polyam parenting resources I share will come from other people. (I can especially recommend @remodeledlove 2023-05-14 09:55:44 +0000 UTC View Post

5 Questions about Sex I Wish I Asked Sooner

Good morning, and I hope you're having a lovely weekend!

So, lots of people ask me to make sex education videos but I'm unfortunately not a sex educator. However, I can definitely speak to the volatile range of emotions and stressors that come up when navigating that sort of intimacy.

Today, I'll offer 5 questions...

Case Study: Learning to Say "No"...

Good morning!

Lots of folks have asked me to share more about detachment, codependency, and finding solid boundaries with people you love. And absolutely, I've got you.

Today, I'll share a case study of one significant relationship in my life, and how I've learned to say "no," without being ice cold or apologizing...

15 Questions for Long Distance Relationships

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I hope you’re having a lovely weekend. Today’s resource will be a questionnaire, which I hope may be of service.

I’m often asked how to set boundaries in long distance relationships. That’s a big topic. Since there are so many variables, and it’s really context-dependent, I dont think it’...

"There's just not enough to go around" - Part Two

Good morning!

Today, we'll continue exploring scarcity, specifically with renewable resources like energy or sexual desire. What is and isn't within our control? What plays into our fears, and how do we talk about it?

I'll share how I approach these tensions, what I ask of myself and my partners, including anecdot...

"There's just not enough to go around" - Part One

Good morning and happy Easter, if you celebrate!

Today's chat will be about scarcity, specifically with finite resources like time or money. What do we do when there's not enough to go around? How do we know when asymmetry is hierarchy in disguise?

This is not a comprehensive "how to" video.

Bonus Resource: From Armor to Ease podcast

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If you'll be attending my workshop later today with @polyphiliablog, I look forward to seeing you there! And if you can't make it but are still interested, the recording will be on chillpolyamory.com/shop in the days af...

LIVE CHAT: On Broken Expectations, Ambiamory, and the Myth of a Romantic / Platonic Binary

Here's the video and transcript from yesterday's Live Chat! The next one will be some time in May, I hope to see you there again.

Chapters:

• 00.00 What if your partner wants to see you less?
• 03.08 Deescalating a long-term relationship
• 06.19 How do we challenge the romantic /...
  2023-03-27 16:15:19 +0000 UTC View Post

Time to Move on? 40 Questions to Ask

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I hope you’re having a lovely weekend. Today’s resource is text only, as I think it’s a better format for this kind of exercise.

A common question I get is, “how do we know when it’s time to move on from a relationship?” Especially in non-monogamy, it can be easy to think...

Nuance in Solo Polyamory

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I've been hearing some stress lately in solo polyamorous people who feel frustrated by the (perceived) binary of independence vs. interdependence.

Sometimes total autonomy in housing or finance or child rearing isn’t possible. If people can’t afford rent without roommates, sometimes close friends...

On Mono / Polyam Dynamics

Hope you're having a lovely Sunday!

Quite a few monogamous folks have asked me to touch on mono / polyam dynamics, where a monogamous person is in a romantic or interdependent relationship with a polyamorous person. So, let's talk about it!

While it isn't something I participate in anymore, I've chatted with quite...

"Casual" doesn't have to mean "unclear"

So, my microphone was turned off. 🙈 We're using the onboard camera mic today. I cleaned it up best I could, but I'll have the transcript enclosed here too, in case you'd rather read it.

Anyway hi! Do you have any "casual" romantic or sexual relationships? If yes, do things ever feel uncertain or uncl...

New Resource: Polyamory Today

Good morning!

Today, I'll share a curated set of non-monogamous voices on Medium called Polyamory Today. It amounts to essentially a magazine, via the Medium platform. 

These are all anecdotes or opinion pieces, and I don't agr...