What You See vs. What I Internalize
Added 2021-02-12 19:09:36 +0000 UTCYou voted, you got it! This table is full of internalized shame from a lifetime of criticism.
Which ones do you recognize from your own life? Did I forget any?
Comments
Oh god this was me last uni semester. Massive group design project, which basically forced me to neglect other modules, and was a prolonged nightmare and hellhole. I hate having people depend on me like this.
2021-02-18 14:42:53 +0000 UTComg, I feel all of these all the time :(
2021-02-14 11:10:00 +0000 UTCOne idea: practice dropping the "I'. Replace "What's wrong with me?" to "What's wrong?" to shift your focus to the task at hand. Problem-solving for the actual objective helps you escape the rabbit hole of shame. Thanks again, Dani!
2021-02-13 14:38:43 +0000 UTC“You said you’d be done this project by ___, do you need more time to finish it?” -> “Why did I trust you with this project anyway?? Jeez!”
2021-02-12 21:39:25 +0000 UTC“It’s not that hard” hurts so much. I’ve had that constantly in my adult life so far. It is that hard sometimes.
2021-02-12 21:11:22 +0000 UTC"Hey, I noticed (metric), what's wrong?" => "This is basic shit. Why the hell are you screwing yourself over?"
2021-02-12 19:42:35 +0000 UTC“Why can’t you just____?” —>I’m a failure
2021-02-12 19:29:32 +0000 UTCI feel all of the ones on the right, but as an ADHD parent of an ADHD child, I have to admit I’ve said many of the left. How do I fix myself?!?
2021-02-12 19:20:29 +0000 UTCThere's also the "You made one small error in a gigantic project that is otherwise great" => "I am a failure"
Sam Howard
2021-02-12 19:15:19 +0000 UTC
