PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): A woman's identity

Adaptability & consistency are both equally important, essential values to me.

RhodiumMaiden

Jung is great!

RhodiumMaiden

What Joseph said. There are still healthy symbiotic relationships, they’ve just become increasingly rare.

RhodiumMaiden

I really like that it's not just dating advice. Your explanations have granted me an understanding of meaningful and pivotal times in my life. 30 years w/o a significant other I thought had left me jaded or incapable. But, like other instances in life, I can now comprehend JC's behavior and why it went south. I actually tried using logic and reason comparatively. I could see many things being different knowing these things then.

iamsamoth

At the expense of all that come after

Peter

Alex's model is a nothing but an observation (not perfect but with a lot of truth in it) of where we have landed as a society and how things currently work. Change does require different more observations as much as it requires for the proverbial shit to keep hitting the fan, until the fam breaks down and ducted aircon is needed.

vanidotau

@Jer A - Through interaction with a female friend of mind who is an English teacher in a Toronto school system, where she teachers her students to critique certain literary works through different "analytical lenses", I have only recently learned about many of Carl Jung's theories. However, although I'd heard the terms Anima and Animus before, this is the first time that I have been inspired to go look them up. I AM familar with the concepts before, but never had the opportunity to give them actual names. So thanks! The "feminine in a man" and the "masculine in a woman" certainly SOUND like aspects that exist within each of us that may need to be "reconciled" (if only to facilitate intergender communication), but I fear that it is possible that such a concept could be hyper-emphasized at the expense of the "reconciliation" of the "feminine in a woman" and the "masculine in a man". I can see how easily a radical Feminist agenda can hijack the ideas to conclude and proselytize that men and women are, therefore, "equal" (meaning interchangeable), with the inevitable social destabilization so rife in modern "Western" thought.

Joseph Omega

Yes, thank you! I believe that our relationships reflect the one we have with ourselves. Each of us is a vessel for both masculine and feminine. For men, this becomes evident through raising awareness of what Jung refers to as "Anima". For women, "Animus". Our relationships reflect the one we have with ourselves and we are whole and complete. The answers we seek hide in plain sight. Within. -Peace

Jer A

@Jer A - I see where you're going. Very good point. And by "creative" you mean a "source of creation", right? In contrast, the masculine seems ALSO "creative", but in the sense of "inventive". So "the feminine is creative and nurturing", while "the masculine is creative and proactive", would you say? Hence the complementary metaphors of "the soil" and "the seed", where the soil "adapts" to the seed's "growth". I like it.

Joseph Omega

A mother doesn't choose her child, but (a good one) will love them unconditionally and adapt her life to meet their needs regardless of the circumstances. A rigid womb is infertile. The feminine is creative and nurturing, that is her nature. It is a biological imperative.

Jer A

@Jimmy Madrigal - Still, "Fake it until you make it" is a tough uphill struggle for MOST men, as it goes against their natural masculine instinct and respect for "honorable" behaviour. Of course not so for many of the successful top minority of men though--the much sought after "bad boys", adept at "game" and unashamed to play it. What is FAR more easily and universally codified is "All women are 10's", and its associated Narcissism, which near ALL modern women are apt to adopt in SOME fashion from almost infancy and reinforced by modern Feminist ideology. Check out this reaction video to a 2011 Karen Straughn podcast on "The Disposable Male": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_0aQ-Xvs6I It is as prophetic and disturbing as it is enlightening--I can easily see many a moderate and reasonable Feminist allowing themselves to be "red pilled" by its revelations.

Joseph Omega

@Jer A - Can you elaborate?

Joseph Omega

Motherhood explains it very well.

Jer A

Adding to that latter part of the video; manipulation, this is exactly how so many honey trap scams work. Taking advantage of men’s basic default to “rescue the damsel”, they will deliberately place themselves in scenarios to provoke you to take on that protective role. You think you’re doing the right thing and helping but it’s women’s style of manipulation. Eg, they’ll comment about being stressed (which in all other cases can be authentic and not manipulative, which is why it works). You ask why. This leads to “I can’t make rent”. We all know where this goes from here. Likewise “forgetting” the wallet on a date. What? Aren’t you a man? Is the non verbal gaslight. Women’s manipulation style is well below men’s radars until you get burned and see it in retrospect. Great vid Alex

Craig

Indeed. What we call "Stockholm Syndrome" in women may actually be yet another aspect of their genetic ability to create successfully convincing illusions, this time even within themselves. Thanks for pointing this out as well!

Joseph Omega

Adaptability in women is explained by evolutionary psychology. Not long ago, warring tribes might battle resulting in the death of all the men in one tribe. The women would be incorporated into the other tribe, forcing them to adapt.

Eric Linden

😂

Joseph Omega

And yes, when my youngest daughter seeks out connection with me out in public by asking for a hug, I might as well be a young bare chested fire fighter holding a puppy dog.

Mark Bryski

Thank you man! It will be the woman who chooses. Based on my past experience, fantastic sex happens when the woman initiates it to pull you out of the friend zone. I am friend zoning the women who are showing me "s level" choosing signals.

Mark Bryski

Good for you! Not every man is so blessed with such an attractive island--kids, like dogs, are an EASY way to a woman's heart. Invest wisely! 😃

Joseph Omega

I agree. These approaches were originally just meant to be "temporary fixes". Their codification into mainstream thought is what is extremely disturbing.

Joseph Omega

@joseph I don't worry too much about that. I already have kids. I have sole custody of them. I am good with someone who is soft hearted with my kids and will provide me with consistently fantastic sex. So far I have pulled in a few candidates before summer break has started.

Mark Bryski

Well done, Alex. Nailed it.

Jer A

It ceratainly SEEMS that way. Alexander's model just looks a little INCOMPLETE, not wrong.

Joseph Omega

I suspect that women do not "lack" this ability, simply that they (as a group within modern times and in the "West" predominantly), have just FORGOTTEN. Hopefully the "red pill" treatment protocol (should they ever choose to take it) can be an adequate antidote to the Feminism infection that has brought on their psychic dementia.

Joseph Omega

@Mark Bryski - Does one REALLY learn about her "identity" even under these conditions? I'm wondering if it instead just allows you to learn her (current) PREFERENCES. When her preferences change (as the high rate of woman-initiated divorces suggest may often be inevitable, given her susceptability to social contagions), there seems VERY little incentive for her to not distance herself from the island, or explore another. Certainly, while she IS on the island and reveling in its wonders and security, and enjoying its boundless resources, her deep reverie and enchantment most often manifests as "softness" and "submission" (that is, "femininity"). I don't think a man should take this very personally, it's just the way she is genetically wired--it is a manifestation of her happiness. Similarly, women should not take it personally when a man "lusts" after a woman's body, or is driven, through chivalry, to protect her and her "honour"--it is part of OUR manifestation. The difference is WHAT men and women DO with this "happiness dividend"--do they re-invest it BACK into the upkeep and enhancement of the island and the boat moored there BEFORE, and IN ANTCIPATION of, the inevitable storms ahead? Here's a controversial hypothesis: Could it be that, whereas a man's "identity" (or "soul" or "character") is tied up WITHIN himself and his rigid "ego", a woman's identity (or soul or character) is really a manifestation of her RELATIONSHIPS (in this metaphor, to the island or the larger archipelago)--this certainly WOULD help to explain their pride at being labeled as "adaptable" or "flexible" or "fluid like water", while at the same time also explain their remarkable susceptibility to environmental change (like "island" droughts and social contagions). What do you think?

Joseph Omega

Thanks for clarification and the testing approach! Helps with other relationships as well.

Michael Rumpelt

At the beginning of a video, I do agree its Fraud, I don't agree is female exclusive. I've seen a lot of this "Fake it until you make it" in pickup artists. I Don't agree with neither.

Jimmy Madrigal

It does put all the onus on the man, doesn't it?

Jason Belle

Women truly lack the ability to understand what an interdependent relationship looks like. They think that having to rely on a man in any way is shrinking of their “identity”. Then also when a man needs to rely on her femininity in the relationship he is seen as “weak”.

Barrett Buckalew

Great video, useful information like always Alexander 👌

Mauricio Alanis

Adaptability. Some women lack self awareness. Others are just dishonest. Men need to be perceptive and figure out which one it is.

Eric Linden

I believe you are referring to this: https://chatgpt.com/share/e7ff07fa-3379-46d9-b5b1-0db3adff4089 on the effects of social contagion on the female psyche.

Joseph Omega

Excellent topic. Want to learn about a woman’s identity? Invite her to your “island”. Invite her to all parts of your “island”. In fact, pay attention to who asks to be invited to the island. The interesting part of my island is I consider my two young daughters to be a significant part of it. When a woman engages them or engages me about them, I get to see how authentically soft her heart can be.

Mark Bryski

Eric Linden

I don't think it is a "new brand" of Feminism, just an UNASHAMED version of what was always there from the beginning, waiting for the right conditions to breed free into social contagion.

Joseph Omega

I've stated elsewhere that I believe that women are "illusionists" (or "chameleons" or "water") by evolutionary necessity. I'm not convinced that they can or even SHOULD be made to change their nature. The ONE thing that is missing (that is NOT part of the evolutionary adaptive framework, and that has long existed among females of every period and culture for long millennia) is a sense of RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY for their actions and decisions. Feminism and its VICTIMHOOD framework killed that capacity especially during the many "individual rights" revolutions of the 60's and 70's. "Duty" and "obligation" has been allowed to become unfashionable for "Western" culture in particular--an anachronism relegated to "traditional" (read primitive, unsophisticated and non-"progressive") cultures in the "rest of the world". The unmitigated idea that "men are islands and women are boats" is PERFECTLY in keeping with men being the ones with the agency, responsibility and accountability, with women flittering from one island to the next, picking and choosing based on whim, fancy and social media fashion, never needing to settle down and GROW relationships, so that it becomes "all up to the man" to make his island attractive for the boats that go sailing by. Unless modified, Alexander's model retains this one crucial flaw that undermines many of his key arguments here. It is in dire need of an upgrade IMO.

Joseph Omega

The new era of female empowerment: whatever I do empowers me because I'm a woman. Honestly it's sad to see so many women buying into this new brand of feminism.

Jeremy Cherpeski

Good evening Peter.

Eric Linden

First. 😉 Good morning everyone

Peter