Dr. Charla Hathaway

Charla gives you a flirting lesson

Flirting is like unleashing a fountain of goodwill you have within you, that keeps getting replenished as you give it away. Yes, in a way you flirt for invigorate yourself. Flirting is 'attention' without 'intention.' It is not manipulative or coercive, it is a gift. How it is received is not up to you,, rather the other pers...

Flirt because you can!

Flirting is like unleashing a fountain of goodwill you have within you, that keeps getting replenished as you give it away. Yes, in a way you flirt for yourself. Flirting is 'attention' without 'intention.' It is not manipulative or coercive, it is a gift. How it is received is not up to you, rather the other person. You offe...

Naked Chef Charla serves you a Love Sandwich

How to make a Love Sandwich: Take a slice of bread, um smell the earthy goodness! For the first layer of bread--VALIDATE your partner, such as, “Oh, it feels so good to be with you on the couch right now.” Next comes the middle layer, or gooey jam (yum!). Here's where you make a REQUEST for something yo...

Men like it slow

We hear it from women, and I hear it a lot from men. I've coached 10s of hundreds of men into astonishingly intimate 'slowness.' Often we just don't know how to slow down. Think of ways that have worked for you, and expand upon them. Mature loving is like a juicy pie where 'intercourse' is but a slice of it, not the whole ...

On my way to the bathroom

Woke up thinking about you, my Patreons, and snapped a photo of me on the way to the bathroom. The joy of casual nudity, in the house, in the garden, in the neighborhood on a bike. Let’s imagine a community with sexy shenanigans like the 2025-05-29 18:04:49 +0000 UTC View Post

I'm ON today, short notice

Dearest Patreons,

Here's a great interview with a somatic male muse--my counterpart!--and so glad that he's available for coaching men and women just like me. Here we are shaking the sexy fruit from the trees--you'll love him, 2025-05-23 14:51:33 +0000 UTC View Post

Illegal in Nicaragua

Can you believe a country makes it illegal to be naked on a beach when the best thing they have is miles and miles of pristine, secluded beaches? I had fun breaking the law for you! I'll be taking off soon for the Orlando Fringe Festival presenting, 2025-04-28 21:21:58 +0000 UTC View Post

A naked yogi invites you to the water's edge!

My Dear Erotic Adventurers,

I love doing naked yoga and would love to teach a class with all of you in it, all of us naked together! Why not!

I wrote a love poem to a man I just spent a coupe of weeks with here in Mexico, but who I may never see again. After we parted ways, I bravely ...

On a tropical morning, I notice my body

I notice what I want—value it, trust it, communicate it. Desires are our highest intelligence, they steer us towards uncharted Wonder. Choosing what happens on our body is a Spiritual Act--more important than any fancy things we do to each other.  Choosing, moment by moment, how we want to touch and be touche...

Mermaid spotted on the malecon in Mazatlan

My dear Patreons, I woke up this morning in Mazatlan, Mexico, with a Mermaid in my bed! I've been enjoying some great Tinder dates here, speaking half in Spanish and half in English over a coffee. No need to take class. People everywhere love to share the beauty of their hometown. Traveling solo, I'm writing a mini-book, 2025-01-28 15:23:36 +0000 UTC View Post

Clarification on Looking for a good Man post

My friend is looking for a man who will pay the whole tuition for the couple's retreat, Finding the Sweet Spot, which is in Dec $4600, or in Jan $4800. I just wanted to make that clear. Thanks, Charla

I need a good man!

Looking for one good Patreon man to help me out! My friend, an intimacy lovely teacher who offers snuggle labs, wants a partner to take her to my couples workshop, Finding the Sweet Spot, Feb 8-15, on Coco Beach, Nicaragua. You'll both learn...

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I meant to include a link to the intimacy retreats in the last Patreon.

A song for you

In the Heart of Darkness a hope lives in everyone's heart, that our humble being may in some way help another and be of service to humankind.

I presented Naked at my Age, my...

Patreons, join me on a pristine beach at a cozy resort this Feb and let me lead you in relaxing, gentle activities that will bring more pleasure and intimacy to your one wild, wooly, and precious life!

I love teaching these retreats, Being Me Loving You for women, and Finding the Sweet Spot for couples and paired friends. I love seeing the faces of studen...

Soft Cock Appreciation Week

Dear Men--and Women who Love Them! My friend Erica Leroye, is on the frontlines of men's sexual health and pleasure and is passionate about educating and supporting people going through and preparing for erectile changes. She is now the new hostess ...

Playing for you in the Fall light

My sister erotic performers danced, sang, tied ropes and wielded floggers at a Whore’s Night Out at the Vortex Theater in  Austin, TX, last week. I presented my solo show, Naked at my Age, 2024-10-29 23:40:55 +0000 UTC View Post