Your Scars Don't Define You

I recognize I’m a few years late on this, but this audio set the tone of acceptance I hope to find for insecurities in the future (although I don’t think I’d be offering my scars up for a measuring competition, haha). These audios always both bring comfort and teach me something, so thank you.

Someone just give this man an award already. Or, let us name a star after him! YES!!

Lilan625

Still listening to this, seeing as I have some big ass scars on my body, it’s so calming and reassuring to hear someone talk about them in such a calm and soothing way x

Ellie

This made me cry, no one has ever talked to me about my scars in a way that was this gentle and kind. I don't like to wear shorts because of the looks I get (self-harm scars are...obvious looking). My past boyfriends have ignored them or been too scared to say anything, and my friends and I just joke around about them. I needed this more than I thought. Thank you <3

I have a lot of little scars from my childhood, I was a clumsy child but the ones that really stand out and bother me are the surgical scars on my knee. I have a degenerative joint disease in my right knee and I've had 3 surgeries for it so far, the last one left a huge scar down the centre of my knee cap and almost 2 years later I still don't like to wear anything that leaves it visible. This is a lovely bit of tender support that does go some way in making me feel better :) so thank you for that :)

I have had scars almost all of my life, and as a kid I never really thought much of it unless other kids made fun of me, but as I have grown older it has been hard to live with them and accept them as a part of me. Some days are better than others, but it can be a really hard blow to any confidence I may have, especially when more scars join the ones that are already there. Most of my scars are surgical, so I never really had a choice but to live with them. Last December hit pretty hard because what was meant to be keyhole surgery ended up being the opposite, so I ended up with four scars instead of three, and one of them is quite large and noticeable. It has taken me a long time to reach some level of acceptance with the larger scar, and it made me more aware of the other scars on my body, as well as the stretch marks. After that operation I made myself a promise to take back control of my life and throw myself into it, and find a way to love myself along the way. Audios like this help that goal feel even more reachable. Thank you for making this audio, Gael. <3

Prue

This is so sweet, I have some big scars too so it always nice to hear that scars don't define you or make you less beautiful 😘

Bookie

Hallo, Frau Claudia and the rest of the <i>crème de la crème!</i><br><br>T'was another long, lonely day of driving, my good Frau. I’d say one thing that’s simultaneously been a curse and a blessing in my cross-country journey is that I have so much time to just <i>think</i>. It’s a good thing when I’m able to cook up a pleasant daydream or story in my mind, or when I find myself thinking of my family or my cats. It’s a not-so-good thing when I end up mulling over my worries about work. Or how lonely I feel. Or all of the things I desperately want to say to different people but likely never will because <del>I’m too chickenshit</del> it’s my job to help others with their problems, not the other way around 😕<br><br>But since I don’t want this comment to end up as emo as the LiveJournal account I had in high school (I know, I’m sorry 🤦🏻‍♀️), how’s about some <i>Fragen?</i> ☝️🤓<br><br>If you were one of the Seven Dwarves, which one would you be?<br> - What action or activity makes everyone doing it look stupid?<br> - What rumour or conspiracy theory would you start, and how would you start it?<br> - If you could ask any person any question which they had to truthfully answer, who and what would you ask?

Frau Claudia! I am late to the fragen! Taste... to taste you must touch. Play. For sure. Sweets, please! I like tart but give me the sweets. Dolphins or whales? How can you ask such a thing? Dolphins. Orca, aka killer whales are actually the largest species of dolphin and I loves them. They're fascinating. Air conditioning we because sometimes the ceiling fan is just bit enough. Like now. General aesthetics are pro checks. Like hounds tooth. I m more likely to wear stripes. 😘

GinaG

Guten Morgen Mädls. A happy Sonntag to everyone! I´ m much too lazy tired hot and tipsy for the Fragen tonight. :) Maybe one of you is in the mood to ask some? Hm? If ja, danke for your Fragen and answers meine Lieben, wie immer. XD

Well, sweet Claudia, in answer to your Fragen...... Def taste over touch...I have some sensory issues so too much touch can overwhelm me. Work &amp; play. Not enough work to be productive doesn't allow the play you earn to be any fun &amp; you also need to have quality play too to help you appreciate the work. Sweet all the way. Totally dislike anything sour, nauseates me. Dolphins, I think are more personable, but something about how majestic whales are. To be that big &amp; that graceful, just AWESOME! AIR CONDITIONER!!! I have major allergies &amp; asthma so air conditioning is a must for me. (I use fans as well, lol, to help circulate) Checks, kinda like plaid. I'm a big girl so to big of stripes make me look bigger, but plaid always looks good on me. Thank you for the questions! Enjoy your evening!!

Guten Morgen Gaelandia. A nice Samstag to everyone. I´ m really tired tonight. It´s so warm, even now! And the kilns are making it worse. Ughhhh! My students were nice yesterday and they didn´t complain much about the hard work under the burning sun. Haha.. How about some easy Fragen? Ja?... This or that? Touch or taste? Work or play? Sweet or sour? Dolphins or whales? Air conditioner or ceiling fan? Checks or stripes? That´ s it for tonight, danke for your Antworten, wie immer. XD

Guten Morgen Spätzchen! I thought it was a case of Patreon getting snacky again! It really does seem to like eating your Fragen at the minute, doesn’t it? 😳 hope the students behave for you! Du hast einen guten tag! ❤️❤️❤️

Guten Morgen Gaelandia. A happy Freitag to everyone! Any weekend plans? I will have some students here for some outdoor/ancient pottery experimenting. Let´s hope it won´ t be too hot... well we have to make some firepits... hmm I will let them do the dirty hot work. As I usually do. Hehe... I wanted to ask the Fragen, but I see that yesterday´ s, really good ones from my dear Emmy are not answered jet. So please go up and answer them if you are in Fragen mood. :) Danke for your answers meine lieben Fraugen. Danke Emmy Spätzchen for stepping in! You know I tried to post mine but Patreon was down for maintenance at that time. Maybe they finally got their shit together.... bahaha... as if!

I covered my face to hide because it hurt to look at myself in the mirror. I was afraid my unbeautiful truth would show somehow through my skin—that people would know I had been abused, that I as a result was starving myself, harming myself in an effort to cope. I was afraid people would see that I was clinging to life by a shredding thread. Now? I see scars and I see stories. I see a being who has lived, who has depth, who is a survivor. Living is beautiful. Being a part of this world is beautiful, smile-worthy, despite the tears. ~ beautiful words by unknown

I always felt more attracted to „imperfections“. Be it in people, in nature, in old buildings or in simple objects. So-called „imperfections“ make us INDIVIDUAL... they make us fucking UNIQUE. And that's what I adore. I can’t stand fake... I prefer REALNESS!!! There’s a beautiful saying: „Look at yourself as a colour. You may not be everybody's favourite but one day you will meet someone who needs you to complete his picture.“ Thanks for your encouraging words😘♥️

Your words were spot on 👌🏻😌 this audio is so meaningful, especially because we are always bombarded with messages of perfection and it can be difficult at times to look at ourselves 😩 but you always manage to find the right words and the right tone to say them to make us feel good about ourselves 😌😌 Thank you so much Gael, it’s audios like these that make me feel forever grateful for the day I stumbled upon your work ❤️❤️❤️ Lots of love 😊😊

Thank you for this, Mr. G! It means so much to me more than anyone could know. 😊

This audio is very meaningful and helpful in a way that we(lovelies) suffer from a lot of the same "scars". I myself have self harm scars, scars from abuse, accidents and even pregnancy( having a C-section and stretch marks😫). And I really appreciate you Gael for acknowledging and creating a safe space for us to talk about those things let alone even mention them because they are something that I just do not speak on ever. Unless you are an intricate part of my life and even then I am still careful on speaking about it. I am very proud of everyone here sharing their stories and just for being survivors! You guys rock!❤❤💚💚😊😊

Hallie Balloon

I hope you’re doing well, Frishawn! Good to see you here again 🙂

'Sup, Emmy! 'Sup, everyone! How'd I get that ONE scar? There's one on the left side of my waist I got when I played baseball ass a kid. After I hit the ball and was running to a plate, I slipped on broken gravel and slid like the pros, resulting in a nasty gash. Do I have freckles? I don't. Do I have birthmarks, and how did the past me die? Interesting theory. I have one on my left thigh. I think in my past life, I got shot with an arrow and it hit the main artery. A; tighter clothing, B; looser clothing, or C; happy to find something that actually fits? B, and C. Do I have tattoos? I don't. I don't want any. What do I do on one of those 'screw self-consciousness' days? I would kill for one of those days...! I'm pretty sure I'd wear whatever the freak I want, among other things.

As someone with a lot of self-harm scars, this is especially meaningful to me. It's particularly difficult to accept the marks I myself made in times of desperation. It's very hard to not feel the need to hide -- hide my scars, hide myself, hide from the world... There's a lot of shame and stigma, assumptions, etcetera. So something like this takes on a different meaning to me. Thanks, Gael. 💙

Guten Morgen beans! Nope! I’m not our favourite Töpferchen but it looks like Frau C's busy today! Probably a big order. Might be something scaly slithered in and stole her away. Maybe the kittens got VERY hungry 😳 In the interests of having some Fragen though, see below! And given that we're celebrating scars and the stories they tell, this one has a theme of loving our imperfections! - everyone has that ONE scar - large or small - from doing something genuinely and honestly dumb, what did you do to get yours? - Do you have freckles? Have you ever drawn lines between your freckles to see what shape they make? - There's a theory that your birthmark is the scar left over from the injury that killed one of your past lives. Do you have any birthmarks and if so, how did past you die? - Do you prefer to A: wear your clothes a little tighter to hold your chubby bits in or B: where your clothes a little looser to let your chubby bits breathe? Or C: Are just grateful to find ANYTHING that fits cos women’s clothes are sized by fucken voodoo..... - Do you have any tattoos? Do you like them or would you rather get them covered over? If you would like to get them covered, what art would you cover yourself with? - What do you do on those days, be they frequent or few, when you decide 'fuck this I am NOT being self-conscious today!' To make yourself look and feel like you're ten feet high and nothing on earth can bring you down? Whatever that looks and feels like to you? Have good days everyone! ❤️

Scars are kind of a road map of your life. Each one, like Grandma said, is a tattoo with a better story. I have many scars as well, some big, some small, some scars with scars, &amp; I can look at them &amp; remember that time in my life, a twist &amp; a turn here &amp; there all leading to where I am now, without them, I wouldn't be where I am, &amp; honestly, I like where I am. Do I wish I didnt have this huge scar on my shoulder from a surgery to fix my collarbone, yes, quite frankly, it's ugly, but that scar is one that holds the biggest lessons learned in my life &amp; if I didn't have it, it'd change who I am &amp; I like who I am. Thank you Sir for just being you &amp; knowing what it is we need to hear when we need to hear it!!!

I am proud of every Scar... They remind me of who i am and on the past. Not every memorie about them is good but they make me to the Person i am today...

I dont have any scar, but i could, someday. Love your voice &lt;3

Scars are just little reminders that whatever tried to kill you didn't succeed. 🖤💋

I still have scars from my appendectomy two (or three??) years ago. My mother had one too when she was younger but her scars have completely disappeared. She's always saying it's because she was much slimmer than I am so hers healed faster. I have stopped paying attention to mine, but it always hurt a little when she says that. Everytime she does it's like the first time the topic is brought up :') As if I have to be reminded more of my physical insecurities. Thanks for the audio, G ♥

Goodmorning

Btw great take on the subject G well done

Scar lol

I have a scar on my right knee, from a knee replacement i had years back. It was a painful operation with a pretty big dcar Thanks for the audio . Its good to remember we are more than the packaging we are in lol

As a person who has had scars of one sort or another all of her life. I can truly say that they don't define me. Am I beautiful? Yes! Kind? Yes! Giving? Yes! Loyal? Yes! Intelligent? Or course! Those are the things that should and do define anyone who walks the planet. But those are things that are very easily lost in a society consumed with the quest for the next new and shiny thing. Thank you G for reminding us that we are at our core "who we are" not because of the package we're wrapped in. But because of the substance of the character inside.

As always, G is somehow able to go gently, (but purposefully) straight to the most secret insecurities buried soooo deep in the corners of my heart. I don’t know how...but he GETS it. It’s so special what he does. And it’s soooo worth the teeny tiny bit of financial support to help him keep making these audios! As a woman struggling to regain my power and sense of purpose after a facial disfigurement, this audio touched me. Thank you, Darling!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Wow! You know how to hit the spots to make anyone feel about their faults and scars and make feel alot hetter. I love this so much Gael thank you 😍

Stephanie

The second I saw the title, I teared up. I have hoped for the longest that you would do a 'comfort for scars' audio. My scars are the one of the things I'm extremely self-conscious about. I knew I was going to cry a little when listening this, but hearing you say that I "don't have to hide them", something I've really tried hard to do for <i>years</i>, hit me harder than I thought it would. It was almost like...that needless weight was being lifted, sort of. And the hugs at the end were really nice. Thank you so, so much for doing this one, Gael. I do feel better now 🤗💖

you just made my day better Gael. love you.

Indeed. There's a strong message behind this sensitive topic and G's words. He's doing it really good 👏👏

I grew up around stretch marks. My mom had them, my sister had them, from being overweight. I was a skinny child and teenager but, when I got out of high school, my weight gain began, and so did my stretch marks. They've always been part of my life, one way or another. I never hated them. I just accepted that this is what happens when you get fat. Skin stretches. Fact of life. But I guess we all feel differently about our scars. regardless of yours, you are an awesome person.

I think I'll just stick to what I said on Sugar: Scars, true mark of a warrior, are they not. Whether the scars are visible or in places only you can see. Your words were as lovely as always.

I don’t have scars on my body but I do have stretch marks and I get self conscious about them sometimes. This made me feel better about having them ❤️

"Scars are tattoos with better stories". Something tells me I'd like your Gran. :-) This was so lovely and tender. I don't have any scars, but I've dealt with what I've thought were flaws that I was born with. To say I was subconscious about them is a huge understatement. But I'm learning to accept them; it's almost to the point that, even if I could change them, I wouldn't. Why should I? :-) You're a sweet, kind man, G. I hope you realize the good you're doing. (((HUGS)))

I have two scars, both on my face. One of them is so small and faint now that you'd never know it was there unless you inspected my face. It's at the corner of my eye, where I fell out of bed when I was very young. Hit my eye on something and it bled like a stuck pig. Didn't need stitches though. The other is also small but visible. When I was 10 years old, I was playing blind mans bluff while playing on one of those old metal merry go rounds. I lost my footing, fell and my chin slammed down on the metal. My friends ran back to my house for help. Minutes later, here came my teenaged brother, running to beat the bandit, scooped me up and carried me all the way back home. I bled all over his tshirt. It was one of his favorites, but he didn't care. That one also never needed stitches. I love these 2 scars. They make for interesting conversation pieces. The scars I have that I hate are the invisible emotional ones. They will stay with me, on my heart, forever.

Ah Vy I'm so happy to read this. I'm sorry you've been through such hardship but I am proud of the strong person you have become!!

I love that you said your scars don't define WHO you are. I have scars from burns on my legs and I remember thinking I wouldn't be able to wear shorts, bathing suits ect. Should I explain that they're there before I get undressed in front of someone new? It was a real fear because it looked soooo bad initially. With time they have faded and its nowhere near the horror show I thought it was gonna be,lol. I still see them but I think differently about them. They are most definitely like tattoos with a better story.

Catherine

Aye I understand! I guess its always going to be a question of subjectivity Thats why the audio is playful towards the end junno I have ta approach the audios from a universal standpoint Do my best with the subject and all of that jazz I am prolly gonna do a few of these too, and hit the subject from different angles XD

I literally started crying when I got to the part when you say, "you are perfect just the way you are... scars and all." I've always hated the scars on my body, especially the stretch mark scars on my thighs and stomach. And I also have several knife scars from an abusive relationship, which I've never told anyone about (except for my loving and sweet and gentle and all around amazing boyfriend), passing them off as stretch mark scars. They are the ones I haven't accepted yet, I have accepted my stretch marks now. So hearing you say that really hit me hard. Thank you G. You're helping me heal, in ways I have never imagined and for things I thought I had successfully buried away and forgotten. It really means a lot for me, everything you've done thus far without even realizing it. V

This is very sweet and snuggly and reassuring. However, I feel saying- “your scars don’t define you” is not entirely true. Sure they don’t define my entire self, but they certainly do define some pivotal events in my life, events that have shaped who I am, whether I like it or not. Some scars are wild funny stories, some are injuries, some traumas. For some women their scars are a result of giving life, giving birth. I understand the intent and the loving, accepting spirit with which this audio is made, but that particular turn of phrase doesn’t ring true for me. I feel like it’s better to honor the strength it took to survive what created our scars, rather than throwing a blanket over them. Peace and monkey grease.✌🏼🐒 💗

So sweet and caring 💕lovely as ever 💞

Gillian Cann

...you know sad is that not everyone can see the scars that we carry within our hearts. Those scars are hard to heal....tough but they make us so damn strong❤

Wow!!! This was beautiful. So many of us have scars rather visible or not visible and to hear that no matter what you are still beautiful and perfect is beyond words. Thank you so much G for creating this. It is touching to my heart! ❤❤❤

Can't wait to listen to this when I get home. 😍

Thank you ❤❤ pretty hard to accept your scars during summer especially when you can't hide them from people. This audio is so sweet 😚

This is sweet!

Everything that you said here is perfect, such a source of comfort. You're a treasure, and I love you.❤❤❤❤

Been tinkin’ boutcha. Hope you are well. Thank you for being. 🙏🏻❤️

Needed this just now. #perfecttiming

This is literally just what I needed. Thank you, G!

So sweet!

Aw! This is amazing

So close to first! One day I will snag that crown. 😆 I know you think we're perfectly imperfect, same back at ye, scars and all; especially the ones on the inside dear luv.

Chelie

Hi! X