Women can be themselves, Men must make themselves. Men must learn how to make themselves and be self-confident. Do let anyone tell you otherwise. Embrace the burden of performance
Anthony S
2019-11-01 15:13:46 +0000 UTC
Awesome explanation. Thx a lot!
2019-11-01 06:16:51 +0000 UTC
Fantastic explanation here Alex. I’d never thought of it quite this way, especially what you said in the first 3-4 minutes. I certainly have felt something is crazy wrong about my experiences in the dating market. I partly attributed that to the city I’m in, but I’m sure that’s just one of the contributing factors.
The woman’s “be yourself” advice is well-intentioned but wrong, I think. The right answer is “Yes, he should put some work into increasing his social confidence and then evaluate whether he is making progress, what difference it is making, and how he feels about it.”