Answering lots of questions about masturbation: PATREON EXCLUSIVE

I was brought up a J.W. I was told by my own parents that they didn't want another child like me (autistic) very honest. But then they told me not to masturbate, my reward was in the system to come, but they also told me there was no marriage for those resurrected into that system. They change their doctrine like their underwear of course. The reality is that ALL religion is more about SEX and EUGENICS than anything else! (Kurzban) this is why the hierarchy of any religion ignores the anti-sex rhetoric, or have some special rules for them but not for you. I have since adopted evolutionary psychology as my "religion" and am full of hatred a virgin at 65. (INCEL) Even atheists like you keep preaching against porn prostitution and masturbation. But you yourself don't have to live it. I see nothing but EUGENICS. At least Hitler euthanized people like me and did not bullshit about it.

Definitely & this is also because men tend to be active sexually & women more passive/receptive. I.e. men are always in the mood vs women need to be aroused, as a generalisation. Ofc it’s a spectrum & there are women who are very active sexually & men who are very passive, & everything in between.

RhodiumMaiden

What about the damage to male fertility from abstinence? Men who don’t ejaculate at least once per week will have fewer, poorer quality sperm.

RhodiumMaiden

Modern porn is absolutely vile, destructive personally & socially. But men should ejaculate at least once per week to maintain optimal fertility, so some masturbation is definitely necessary for single men. Vibrators for women are analogous to porn for men, imo, though not as destructive.

RhodiumMaiden

Sexual transmutation is a real thing. Masturbtaing kill sexual energy. The level of sexual energy after weeks of not releasing is really another level. Tantra and sexual transmutation generally is great and real thing in my and many other peoples experience, particularly for men. Woman can orgasm almost as much as they want as I understand, but men loose their energy similarly to women who menstruate as I understand. There really is no gender equality :( But I agree that porn is the main problem, masturbating infiriguently and perhaps even raising that energy upwards is fine and perhaps it really is sometimes better to release some bent up energy, maybe...

RS

What about the use of pornography for masturbation? Masturbation in itself seems to be proven to be a fully natural pursuit, however when pornography becomes involved in the process I think that it has potential to become extremely damaging with excessive use. https://fightthenewdrug.org/get-the-facts/

Great contribution Oliver! Thanks for sharing your experience.

Blair

When thinking about the differences in men and women being prone to masturbate frequently, in addition to what Alex says, consider how much more turned on men are with just a small amount of visual stimulus. Throughout men's daily lives we so frequently see sexy women's bodies - at school, at work, on TV, on social media. I'd guess that this triggers us to want to masturbate more frequently than men did in, say, the 1800s.

Blair

Don't need this advice, I'm an expert 😏

Wild_Card

I don't know if I would wanna Google "How animals masturbate" 🤣 I didn't know that about animals though aside from apes. Interesting.

Joel K. Normann

Honestly, it is probably just porn that is the problem. It is like having access to a drug 24/7. There are studies about the effects it can have on the brain. That is what all the 'rebooting' is about, I think.

Joel K. Normann

From my experience, I think there's some truth to the PMO philosophy. The issue is having the right tools and confidence to use that sexual energy in a positive way. If we always gave into our primal urges then it would be equally as easy to say being obese is okay, because we have the urge to eat and food is so easily available, but we know that it is unhealthy. I am constantly in this battle in my head of whether my effort to fend off the instant gratification of PMO is for a healthy end, or a denial of my own nature. I've gone 60+ days without PMO and the main difference I noticed was my hyper awareness around my sexuality, ie being very careful to not allow my thoughts to flow into fantasy. However, what ultimately broke me was the sight of a gorgeous women on a bike. So in some ways I became way more sexualized in everyday life by trying to repress it. I don't fully agree with the NoFap community, but I do think there is something to the idea of discipline and self-control when it comes to PMO.

Oliver Brossmann

What do you make of it ? I think it's a false problem. You have to release your sexual energy one way or another. Also what to do when porn is so easily available that you can use it almost every time you feel the urge to ?

Hugo Matiz

What do you make of the NoFap community? They are pretty set on the idea PMO (Porn Masturbation Orgasm) Is detrimental to most men's lives.

Oliver Brossmann

Women LOVE the thought they are your only source of sexual release, hence they HATE X-Hamster, Pornhub etc. It's very rare to find a woman who UNDERSTANDS that womens & mens sexuality is not at all the same. Women generally have to be in a zone, in the mood & focussed to reach orgasm ... men on the other hand, can readily interrupt a wank to ponder all kinds of trivia & go right back to it. Women (girls) cannot understand why their man needs to masturbate when he has her ... guys simply do not make that connection

David

Yes, exactly that. The big stuff like you mentioned and also worrying about the little stuff like making sure the house is cleaned, laundry done, and stuff is ready for next day, etc. Plus, since women don’t generally watch porn as much they don’t have visual stimuli to distract them and get their heads in the moment.

When you say their mind has to be in the right space do you mean they're not worrying about other things (work, kids, education, . . .). I think women have a hard time relaxing enough to get into the right frame of mind.

DC

I’ve known a lot of women over the years who don’t masturbate. Shame has never been a reason they’ve shared for why they don’t. The most common reason I’ve heard is that their mind has to be in the right space - and that usually the only time they let themselves think on it is at night before bed and by that point they are too tired. I’ve never understood that excuse myself but I suppose it’s possible I just have a higher drive than other women because myself and others I’ve known who do it on the regular actually feel a physical urge, regardless of our headspace. Also most women think it’s completely normal for a guy to masturbate frequently and I think the only time it would become an issue is if it got in the way of a couples sex life with each other.... not counting potential issues with porn usage.