PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Reaction to Street Interviews of Male Emotions

In my experience you are spot on.

It makes sense from an evolutionary perspective but the disconnect with men is that you fell in love for him as he was exactly the same as he is now, but now it's not ok ! It feels like a betrayal. First of all, you have the responsibility to talk about what triggers you if you really care about your partner. I see it too many times (and from my own experience) that the woman will take the decision on her own at some point when the man was never in the discussion. That really sucks and feels like being back stabbed. Second, you will survive. I understand how your survival fears may be triggered but we are in a pretty safe environment nowadays so you should be able to rationalize and alleviate these fears in this regard. No, the real reason is that you are hardly satisfied and want the most that you can get out of a relationship, no matter what the connection with the guy is (i.e. you would prefer being with someone able to comfortably provide for you rather than someone who matches your personality and values).

Hugo Matiz

Man cries off and on when he find out a family member or pet dies or is seriously injured or ill. Or he cries because there has been some major breakthrough with someone he was close with. In a woman’s eyes this means he is a good parent/friend, family man etc. If he holes himself up in a room crying nonstop for days on end - that is when It May become an issue. Man cries because he is in physical pain - how a woman perceives this will depend on the seriousness of the injury and the extent of the crying. If he stubbed his toe and is wailing, that’s a suck it up moment. If he chopped a finger off with a tool in the garage and has tears streaming down is face - that is perfectly normal and understandable. Man cries because he lost his job or is struggling with something at work. The crying itself is not particularly the issue - it’s what he does and how he behaves after expressing the emotion that seals the deal of a woman’s perception. Man cries (more than a glisten of the eyes) because of a sentimental commercial on TV - it’s an example like this where I admit I personally might get a little turned off - it depends on a lot of other details. And this is why #3 in your analysis makes the most sense with how I personally feel and how I’ve seen women behave. Women need to see enough other behaviors so she’ll feel safe that he won’t fall apart at the drop of a hat and will still be able to protect her when push comes to shove. If we begin to worry that the sadness, fear, anger, frustration being displayed is indicative that he will lock up or make bad decisions about his life (I.e. OUR life) if I stay with him - and there is no evidence otherwise - That’s when the attraction begins to die. If I don’t feel safe with a guy, I don’t have the luxury of attraction, I want to survive and be happy.

Alexander, I recommend you check out a YouTube video by Sam Vaknin, titled Men and Women Battlefields: Marriage, Family, and Other Failures. Vaknin argues that the Red Pill community has it wrong and recent research indicates women prefer beta males. I think he'd say this is the result of things inversion of traditional gender roles.

DC

All of the girls in the interview will immediately condemn ‘toxic masculinity’s demand for hard, unemotional men’...but I feel like they’re also exactly the type to demand their boyfriends to ‘man up’ when it suits them. I’m starting to think that women’s current obsession with ‘toxic’ masculinity might actually have something to do with their own preferences...

Oliver