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I hope you can manage to make a video on the the topic of "approval seeking by men". This is something I have struggled with. Starting from childhood and way into my adult life.

Stan

High quality people, men and women, don't have to want to have children as long as both partners agree on it and know that their type is doomed to extinction. The bigger question is - are we responsible for the survival of our species or not?

Marek Szumlas

PS congratulation on achieving the 900-Patrons mark :) you surely deserved it, Sir. Keep up the good work!

Here is a question - for the guys wanting to become a high quality men: What should men GENERALLY strive to develop within oneself for in order to become a high quality man? [e.g. financial stability, being in touch with one's masculinity, maybe developing one's emphatic side, being ok with being and dying alone or traits similar to that]

In a previous video, one of your defining points of a high quality woman was that she likes children. What if a man is interested in finding a good woman to partner up with, but doesn't want children? Can a high quality woman dislike or not want to have children of her own?

ActOnInstinct

I hope I did not indirectly offend you. I mean, you just cannot be under 30, no way!!

Marek Szumlas

I think Julian has a point Alexander. You need to include older, even old women, in your work. Interesting women under 30 are quite rare - their beauty is often skin deep and they shed it as soon as they open their mouth. By the way, majority of men under 30 are not much better.

Marek Szumlas

How about investigating corrolations between neuroticism and female own group preference and womens social proofing. seems to me, that the more neurotic women rationalise their own perceptions of the world. Does this fit into this somehow? Sorry to be so vague.

Agree - I have 3 high school boys. One playing with 'trans', though its on and off. He's just figuring things out. It's a peer pressure or need to fit-in thing for him I suspect. I'm currently just being vocal about bad female behaviour when we watch TV. I don't say 'female behaviour' though - its just mostly females that I point out (9 out of 10 times probably).

Older than university age women. Hi Alexander, I'm seperated and in the process of splitting up our things prior to the actual divorse. Red pilled for 3 years, still have some of the red pill rage. I believe its quite viable that women are not worth the cost. You talk about quality women, and thats kind of why I'm not completely monk mode. I'm just yet to met them. I am 48 years old with three high school boys. I meet many of the typical check boxes of women. I tried tinder, I set the upper limit of women to 44 and lower to 27. The problem is that there are very few women over 35 that I swipe right on - they are just not attactive. I read their profiles, check their other images, but there is nothing. The profiles of the rest are so revealing of their nature that its horrible. Looking for money, or just delusional. (eg: 40 y/o - wants kids someday...) There are some attactive women that come across as genuine, but I'm not Chad or sitting by a pool in a mansion. (ie:in the top 10%) So - my question. The mindset of University 'girls' you have covered well. Could you cover the women that fall into the older age groups? I would think you would need to further divide these into: Has Children. Wants Children. Doesn't want children. And how to identify quality.

good topic! For background reading, check out The Ape Who Understood the Universe

Alexander Grace

Mens initiation into manhood for the modern day. Thoughts and how to?

To answer your question, just look at Jeremy Meeks' story! Lol jk, but this would make a good video. I myself can relate, I got in trouble with the law for all of my late teens and was arrested but that's all behind me. Glad to see you're doing way better now. Props to you, Derrick.

Super Saiyan Trunks

Answer to your first question is 10000000% yes and the last past would make an amazing video.

Super Saiyan Trunks

Is flirting a natural part of life? and should I be okay with my S/O doing light flirting as long as its used as a means of sexual market value confirmation and not sexual intent? Also, what does it mean when a girl grows up with alot of guy friends? Bigup from trinidad

Can men with criminal backgrounds still be high quality men? I have a criminal background from the metoo movement, I was one of the unfortunate guys who were caught in the torrential downpour of crazy angry feminists in my business, targeted me. I have a hard time mentally acknowledging myself as both high quality and with a criminal background, I am used to thinking criminal = low quality. I do everything in my life with relative excellence, this one stain on my reputation makes me question all the effort I put in my life to be high quality otherwise.

I know you look to evolutionary psychology to explain human mating behavior. What are the limitations of this approach, and how much of it is supported by hard science? Without science it's no better that the post modernist feminist theories.

DC

I would take out the word "Romantic"... let them lead with what they want Romantic or otherwise. We don't want them to go straight to Cinderella and Princess land... LoL.

K M

My questions are these: 1. OK, so I am 33 and I want to find a younger woman of age 20-25. How do I get into position to meet them? How do I structure my social life, hobies, etc.? Or do I simply go to universities and sort of "day-game" them? How do I do that while I am working fool time during day? What is the optimal and most effective strategy? (Because obviously, as for most men of my age, now my circle of friends is about the same age as I and I am only introduced to older women which do not interest me as long term partners.) 2. OK, let us say I know a certain type of woman I am interested in and I even know where they congregate but their hobbies and interest do not match mine. How do I get into that environment without looking and feeling that I am there only to find women (which will obviously be the case)? (In my case I am interested in finances, investment, goal seeking, etc.; and my ideal partner should be a young woman who studies or has just started to work as primary education teachers in a school or kindergarten; such women are most likely interested into arts or knitting or something like that. How do I meet such women?) I know my questions might sound rather specific but I am sure there are many more men facing this puzzle (who either a) want to find a younger woman for marriage or b) want to find a woman of completely different interests from their own ones and their current life schedule does not include places and/or activities where they could meet such women). I am sure your insight and advice would be really helpful for many of us.

Darius Stravinskas

top 10 features of a high quality man

Jeffrey Xie

1. Interviewing Happily Married Women 2. Marriage Advice from a Divorce Lawyer 3. Dating Advice from Lesbians

Tyler Roland Morris

Oop, my bad. Just thought it could be used for a video idea but a private response is good too. 💯

Super Saiyan Trunks

I'll respond to you in private message :)

Alexander Grace

Just a reminder to everyone, please send through your questions to me privately on Patreon, rather than comments on them here :)

Alexander Grace

Great topic! I'm making some notes on this, I'll let you know once I have filmed the video :)

Alexander Grace

I messaged it to you privately but I might as well say it here too, is it socially acceptable to talk about this content with friends (M&F) and on dates? Is it going to socially ostracize me? Am I going to achieve a higher social status because I have knowledge about this stuff because of you? How will I be looked at? Or does it just depend on the individual altogether? What do you think?

Super Saiyan Trunks

I think I know what you're asking and it's a great topic. I have a street interviews video planned where one of the questions is ''what would you say are your most desirable characteristics as a romantic partner?''. It's part of a larger set of questions regarding high quality women. I have half the footage but unfortunately I'll need to wait for the quarantine to end before I can get the other half :(

Alexander Grace

That's not a bad idea. Maybe something like a check list that the audience could follow along as they watch. That might be a good video for the main channel, thanks!

Alexander Grace

hey Alexander, love your videos dude. A while ago you made a video about the 10 characteristics of a high quality women. I reckon it was the most helpful video ive ever watched of yours (among many others haha) and, I guess my question is, how about a slight twist, where you run through the '10 characteristics' a High Quality Women is looking for in a dude? love your work man and congrats on 100k subs a little while ago!

Hello Alexander, Want to say I really like your approach on the male/female topic. After getting red pilled (which was very therapeutic - LOL) I found you as being more holistic - Thank You. On the topic of a question – it would be great if you do a session with interviews asking girls/women what they are looking for in a man. After they tell you praise them and recap and illicit more of the things “they want and need or rather expect from their guy”. Then zoom in on there eyes and wait for the dear in the headlights or three eyelid blinks… when you ask them what are the going to provide to the guy. They are not raised to give to the guys – it is not their first nature; it’s them (Princes) “first” then “their” kids. Lets see how your numbers workout. Cheers , Kurt from Chicago ps … this will be a good lesson for the younger guys.

K M

I learn a lot from.your advices. However, these advices and stances have been permanent with me even through a relationship and it has taken its toll because I'm still in this push and pull dynamic of not-too-interested. Do you have any advice on how not to be beta while pushover but also how to mantain one's individuality while on a relationship? All this evolutionary perspective advice is really useful on attraction and being single, but how is it applicable when in a relationship? Thank you, Alex.