PATREON EXLCUSIVE: What To Do When A Woman Offers You Friendship After Rejecting You

This might depend on how long you have been friends for and if there has always been a desire for a relationship or if it's a new thing. It's certainly a bad sign if she takes it badly if you reject her desire for friendship. I don't think it's always malicious. Women don't like conflict and they're conscious of not appearing to be the b*tch, so it may be that suggesting friendship is her way of alleviating her own guilt. Ps, not saying it's wrong for women to reject men, you like who you like, just saying that for a lot of women it makes them feel guilty even if it shouldn't. Even if the intentions are good and to not hurt your feelings, it's actually unkind to string someone along like that. Especially if it's done so that she can continue to get things from him, whether that be the attention she craves, favours, whatever. A woman that does that knowing he has feelings for her is scum.

Jonathan Lambert

THIS comes just in time!

Fantastic perspective. I wish someone had given me this advice years ago. I've spent years pining for women who just wanted to stay friends, but I never realized how much it damaged my self-esteem -- to listen to their times with other men, feeling constantly pulled down by inadequacy. Thank you sir.

Thank you

I knew my feelings were valid. Wish I heard this at the time. Thanks for this one Alex

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great insight (as always)! I have a question though. you gave an example of what a high quality woman might say in that situation. My question is: in what manner should you distance yourself from the girl? should you be the one saying those things? does it put you in a position of control or does it come across as too feminine for a guy? should you just be like oh ok, i understand and then break off any contact? Thanks!

I had hit on a girl with my best bro. My bro managed to F her multiple times and I was hesitant. To me she said she feels somewhat special? and wants to keep the friendship with me and him. She meant it was just an accident and she actually did not want to bang my bro... sounded odd. I had a chance to bang her myself but turned her down at a moment to get later back at her. A short while later she said she got pregant from a total diffrent guy and wanted my help at the gynocologist. Bringing her there and giving emotional support. There I told her straight up that I am not her girlfriend and another mans fun is not this mans business and she should never ask me for that kind of support as it is insulting. She luckily understood it, I think. But what the hell is even going on the the heads of young women thinking this would be tottally appropriate to put me in friendzone and then asking me to handle the consequences of her sexual relationships? (i turned her down because I had something with my ex)

Great video Alex... My view is that a woman gets pretty much all she wants from a "friendship" but of course a man wants more. Why should she get all she wants while you don't get what you want?

My view on this is that you you have to make it clear what you want from the relationship and don't compromise.... Also if she "comes back" it's possibly because she was just dumped by the one who she dumped you for... And just as soon as she finds someone else better than you she'll be off again

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Alexander Grace

I think it's important to remember, Alex, that a lot of guys get upset and potentially violent when they're rejected. The offer of "friendship" is usually just a strategy used by the girl to physically get themselves away from a potentially dangerous scenario. It's usually not a genuine offer of friendship.

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What if she rejects you, you don't contact each other for some time and suddenly she becomes interested in you? Should you start a new relationship with her or reject her to not feel bad about yourself? I mean, why should you "accept" her if she rejected you before? Isn't that bad for your self-esteem?

Marcin Rajski

A very mature approach. I wish more people would see and understand themselves well enough to do this. I have seen too many people who get entitled and emotional.....usually in that order and on a subconscious level.

Fricken A --- Bravo ! - well put !

K M

Amazing video Alex, you absolutely hit the nail on the head with this one - perfectly summed up what I always intuitively felt but couldn't quite put into words...

In a nutshell, say "No Thank you" and move on.

Mickey Turner

I love how you always put words to thoughts I've had. I've refused to be an orbiter ever since I sort of realised what was going on, and gotten some vastly different reactions to it. My thought at the time was something along the lines of "why would I put something I want but cannot have right in front of my eyes?". Might be a version of tantali torment heh.

Rickard Fors

Thanks for another amazing video, Alex. In this case, I would call her out regardless of the surrounding and throw it back right in her face. I would shame her for this kind of disrespect she projects and make it clear that she intends to get all the benefit from that person without giving anything in return. And finally let her know that her demonstration of low quality makes herself forever out of my life.

If you're not her boyfriend, you're her girlfriend. By declaring you want her sexually, then accepting only 'friendship' ~ she will FOREVER know that you will help her move house or replace the dodgy tiles in her bathroom just for the asking ... AND you will do those things while she is not even there

David