PATREON EXCLUSIVE: How To Make High Quality Male Friends

"Hey dude, wanna hang?" "Sure. What you wanna do?" "Idunno. I guess just drive around town and visit places?" "Sure!"

Would it not make sense that we compete in groups? Meaning that we are both cooperative and competitive at the same time... that the two are not in competition with each other... it isn't one or the other... it's both... We cooperatively compete...

Great info. Thank you. Just joined. Got a reference from another fella on TalkLife app. You do awesome reports. I have to start from scratch. 0 social circle and I'm 36. I will be proactive. Thanks bud.

I suppose this isn't as relevant during the whole COVID shutdown, but do you have any tips for activities to do with people? I have a friend I've known for a year now, at work. I want to ask him to hang out just to bullshit but I feel really weird having nothing to offer. My go-to is typically to go to the nearby pool hall, but that's closed. Bars are closed, too. I guess I just have to wait?

Great insight once again! I've stayed close with a good friend from school. Over time he achieved a lot more with his career and fitness than I did, whereas I was more social over those years. Once the early 20s were over, it was a lot less about competition and more about complimenting each others skill sets and boosting each other for better lifestyles. However, I was under the impression that it was too socially awkward or unusual to have friends in different interests. In my mind, I judged it as if I didn't want to see a friend regularly, with all my other friends, then I was wasting their time trying to keep up contact. I think I'll go back to the drawing board with this one, cheers!

Universally good advice. Thank you!

Margaret

Good topic! Different from what you normally talk about, but very very much related. Your advice is excellent, and I agree with importance of having relationships in those three different categories: master, fellow traveler, and apprentice. In the last few weeks I made three new quality male friendships. It's extra welcomed during this pandemic time. All three are good to play sports with, one is good to talk psychology with, and one is good to talk men's issues with. He happens to be an early-career divorce lawyer who mostly represents men and is totally clued in on disadvantages men face. In total I probably have around a dozen male friendships that are quite close, though some of them I don't see nearly as often as I'd like. That's just the nature of how life and friendships progress over time.

Blair