PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Everything Is About Sex Except Sex Which Is About Power

@CLK_Loverz Hmmm…. There’s a lot to unpack in your response. And, you mentioned “I read/heard” a lot, so I’m not sure to what extent your opinions are grounded in actual experience. My personal experience is limited in the sense that I I was never promiscuous. I’ve had two sexual partners in my lifetime and I knew and trusted both before any sexual intimacy started. I am experienced in the sense that I’ve been married 20 years and have always had a healthy, active, sex life with my husband. I have never felt degraded when it comes to sex. Why would I when there is never contempt or disrespect in the bedroom - only love, pleasure, joy, intimacy, curiosity, and connection. I am not grossed out by my husbands body or the way he feels, smells, or tastes. Just the opposite in fact - his physical presence arouses me. Some of the stuff you mentioned does sound gross - but that seems like partner selection issues to me. People who are too quick to jump into bed together open themselves up to the potential for all kinds of negative experiences and that was never my MO. A guy will have to respond to your questions about why men love receiving oral sex so much to get a more credible answer. I suspect there are several reasons but the most important one (for men and women alike) is this: It results in wetness, heat, pressure, suction, and vibration that stimulates the most sexually sensitive part of the human body. Not liking these sensations means there are physical issues and/or a mental ones (or there is poor execution). As for the comments about oral sex and power… you mentioned yourself that “power means having control or a lot of influence over something or someone.” I love my husband. His happiness, pleasure, contentment, joy, satisfaction, etc. are important to me. It is one of my goals as his wife to help him experience those emotions if/when I can. When I go down on my husband, I can influence his mental/emotional state and can control his bodily reactions. I know what using my my mouth and hands will do to him. I’ve learned what will make him moan, close his eyes, make his legs shake, make him lose his mind and take control, and, of course, what will make him cum and feel those moments of bliss before, during, and after. That’s what I mean by power. Also, I think your assertion that men don’t feel “powerful” (or whatever word you’d prefer to use) when they go down on a woman and make her cum may be false. But, I can’t speak for them. I only see my husbands reactions and hear/read men talking. Based on that though - their reactions seem to run in a similar vein as mine (although I’m sure there are always exceptions).

Hi Alexander - where to meet high quality women during lockdown?

Wow good perspective on surrender

Great video! The whole idea that sex is about power always seemed overly simplistic to me. I also believe that it's only about power for people who feel powerless.

Ken Schafer

Great video. Only feedback is that the face zoom and follow is a little disorienting. I recommend to take it off.

Are you recording this at a bus stop? Great video btw :)

Interesting point of view. Also interesting that you would assume that "power" refers to interpersonal power, one-on-one so to speak, which I don't believe was Oscar Wilde's meaning at all. What he meant is political/social power, an avenue to ascend in prestige and perceived worth. You got closest when you noticed that sex was about validation, which in so many other videos you've pointed out is the biggest barrier to healthy relationships and essentially the cause of promiscuity in modern (and probably all) society. Sex is about power because it is a never ending competition; every moment is not a "surrender", it's a trust and parry, from foreplay to cuddling (if there are to be steps). I always like your optimism, Alexander. You never fail to point out the optimal permutation, regardless of whether people in general are capable of it. You're not wrong, in an ideal situation things might be exactly as you describe. But you're also not right, because no relationship can attain/maintain that for very long, if at all. Eventually the need for validation will overwhelm the satisfaction of real intimacy. This is the nature of people, and the impetus of statements like Oscar Wilde's.

Other women have told me they don’t like performing oral sex because it makes them feel too vulnerable. That always surprised me because (except for one position) it always makes me feel powerful. But, it’s the power to GIVE.. to give pleasure, to give love, to give time to surrender to sensation, etc... with the added bonus that it is arousing to do. I’ll have to soul search a little to see how deeply that “power” ties to my sense of safety. Very interesting perspective.

Probably crows

Is that a goat in the background?

You get caught in Perth for this horsesh!t lockdown? lol

Jay Ronnert