PATREON EXCLUSIVE: How To Meet Your Girlfriend's Father

Blueberry, your last sentence bothers me.

Domald

Find this helpful as a widower meeting a widows adult children. Instruction can be used going the other direction. Children can be very protective of their mother. This I have found good and can work with. This is with their mothers help. As I said very good video.

Domald

I don't trust my step dad as far as I can throw him. And my real dad just wants to see me happy, and had always allowed me to make my own best judgements ❤️ I wouldn't want my step dad talking to ANY of my friends or potential significant others. I don't even want to be alone with him.

No, but everyone wants their family to like their significant other and their significant other's family to like you.

The truth is never black or white. It's always somewhere in the grey. What frustrates me about most debates these days is that it always has to be one extreme or the other when a reasonable balance seems to be the solution in reality. On the one hand, if you have done good parenting you just trust your child and their judgment. On the other hand, you have some sort of responsibility to check on your child's partner, since your eyes are not "clouded with love". The same goes for friends, as long as you can trust your friend's judgment. With topics like these, I think the specific situation and how you do what you do is very important.

Mr. Paul

Can you do a video on dating a girl whose parents have divorced? Like what is the situation for she follows her father and what if she follows her mother. And in that case, what do to when meeting her father.

I agree in principle with what you are saying. Tact is a dying art in our culture, opinions of parents can be expressed at the right time, the right tone of voice, non confrontational or condescending and rationally to a son or daughter at any age. It’s our duty to guide our children at any age from making bad decisions, WITH TACT!!! Having become recently red-pilled, and having 21 year old son and 28 year old step daughter, has given me a little different perspective on ‘her / his parents’. We have had exhausting conversations about Daddy Issues and what manifests in a female personality as result. With boys it’s Mommy issues and what manifests from those dynamics. We have come to a time now where it’s a reversed vetting of parents of a potential marriage or LTR. Boys and men really need to find out what kind of man your potential LTR or wife’s, father really is. Was he neglecting, did he live with her as an infant? Or did he create ‘Daddy’s little girl’? What kind of Mother was a mans mother? Was she loving and nurturing? Both of those upbringings are red flags. Digging into a both sexes childhood is critical to understand what you are signing up for. It’s not necessarily to hold it against them but how have they over come and dealt with it. Do they understand the there own issues? Or have become a narcissist to some degree or another? Also childhood trauma, has the trauma been resolved or not. Unresolved childhood trauma is another whole bag of issues....

U r assuming that the boyfriend here is a good person, parents act like this because they worry that their daughters found the wrong person. Even if the daughter is raised right i dont think this guarantees that her bf is right for her Edit: assuming the parents arent jerks which alex mentions in the vid

Jeffery Tang

Even though it was a rant, I still got alot out of this discussion.  I will add that individual personality type has a big impact on this issue (or whenever two people meet for the first time, really.) My father met two of my boyfriends.  Both were intelligent, sweet boys with lots of potential. One was 17 and very introverted and didn't appreciate my dad's penchant for teasing people. Inside, he was embarrassed and confused and didn't know how to react.  So he ended up saying very little.  My dad was lukewarm about him and didn't really care to talk to him.  The other boy was 19 and outgoing and when my dad teased him, he was able to respond verbally by either being self deprecating or giving it right back.  My dad thought that kid was a riot.  So the one who responded positively to my dad's brand of humor is the one who my dad ended up liking.  Even though both boys were equally as good in their own ways. Of course, I didn't warn either boy about how my dad might act toward them.  It just never occurred to me.  I suspect the first boy would've done better if I had given him a heads up.

Jennifer Coopman

Fair. A guy is only likely to meet the dad in two situations anyway- 1)either the girl is young and still living at home or 2) they are dating and either in, or headed toward, a LTR.

This would only be for marriage, not for dating.

I agree. Some random thoughts: - I have less issue with a dad feeling like he needs to give “permission” or a grilling about intentions if the girl is young (I.e. a teenager). Yes she is autonomous, but likely still also very ignorant about guys. I agree he doesn’t need to be an asshat while doing it though. - If a high quality girl has a really good relationship with her dad, I question whether the dad would ever act like a jerk. The two don’t seem to go together. - I am a daddy’s girl. Married a man like my dad in a lot of ways. My dad is very affable and easy going. His style when he met my husband the first time was - let’s have a drink and have a good time getting to know each other - but know this, if you ever hurt my daughter - I own a shotgun. Now here’s a beer. 😆

Great video

That's awesome :)

Alexander Grace

Thank you for your little rant, however, men can often pick up when talking to a big note lying fraud. In my case, my nurse, soon to be wife, introduced me to her father, who was a 33 year professional soldier with a body full of holes. I was a 9 year professional soldier with a body full of holes, and after we had our hour or so chat, he gave my wife word that I was the Real Deal

Jokes on you, my girlfriends dad had her way later and now has (insert mental affliction that had to do with memory) It was hard to watch