PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Why women need to settle down early

Thank you for your post. The opposite is the masculine and feminine resonating in the same energy. So, an unbalanced man would attract an unbalanced woman. How often do you see a CEO date a homeless woman? You don't. But you would see a CEO have relationships with multiple women and the women are aware, which makes them low value women because they don't see the value in themselves as high enough to have monogamy as their standard. I used to be an over giver so I attracted over takers into my life - predominately players. Only when I learned to love and value myself to a level where monogamy was a requirement did I start attracting healthier men into my life who also have monogamy as a requirement. Does that make sense?

Kerry Blaser

But humans are not fundamental particles with spin and charge. Opposites attracting, is a gross oversimplification in regards to humans A few opposites might spice things up, but consider a relationship with two opposites One is monogamous, one is polyamorous One likes rock music, one likes techno One is an early morning person and one is a late night owl One person enjoys sports, the other person enjoys culture Relationships function because of commonality Otherwise, they’re just separate separate once separate likes, separate values, separate activities… that isn’t a relationship, and those things don’t attract I can’t imagine saying that person is the complete opposite of who I am. They don’t like anything that I like and that is the specific reason why I am attracted to them. … Bruv, you can’t be seriously advocating for that position ?!

Peter

I think I’ve responded elsewhere re feminism but if I haven’t, I’ll elaborate on my view. It’s great when women can be independent - I certainly am too - provided they can still relax & submit to the leadership of a man deserving of our trust.

RhodiumMaiden

Men who are healthy in their masculinity are emotionally and physically fulfilled by providing and protecting women they love. A woman saying she doesn't need her man's money is like a man saying "I do not need your womb cuz I got one of my own." When women have their own money and do not "need" a man to provide, why should the man stay in the relationship when the man's fundamental need to provide isn't met? I would leave a relationship if a man told me he didn't need my womb. People are fulfilled when they are needed in relationships, and they have regular opportunities to meet their needs by connecting and appreciating their most authentic self. How would you feel if your partner told you that he doesn't need part of your authentic, feminine self? Women who out earn men have the highest divorce rate at 90%, and 80% of divorces are initiated my women. Feminine nature is hypergamous. When women out earn their partners, usually women aren't fulfilled and start looking for another partner who earns more than her so she can be fulfilled in the submissive role = connected to her authentic self. Men are fulfilled by providing, so they are fulfilled when they make more than the women and can provide for her. The reason women aren't emotionally and physically balanced when they engage in too many masculine behaviors is masculine behaviors create testosterone.. Women need about 15 times more feminine hormones than men to be physically balanced. Men need about 15 times more testosterone than women to be balanced. So when a women is the main provider in a relationship, then she is building testosterone and that brings her out of balance hormonally. When men are overly connected to their emotions, have addictions or are submissive in a relationship, then they are producing too many feminine hormones and become out of balance. Humanity is at an all time low for testosterone in men and feminine hormones in women. Behaviors are only one factor in hormonal balance with diet, chemicals in foot, etc being other causes. John Gray who wrote "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus" wrote 5 books on the topic of hormones and relationships. When men and women reverse traditional gender roles, it sets the relationship up for failure for multiple reasons.

Kerry Blaser

But you don’t care about women’s money as much as other things. I do think women need to be able to manage money well. It’s not about how much they have but how they use it.

RhodiumMaiden

Some of us career women can manage our money very well. I have always made more than my boyfriends. I don't look at a man's money because I have my own. This girl doesn't seem that rich to me. If she is rich or successful, her attitude overshadows her accomplishments.

What’s funny to me about this, my bank account shows under $20k for first time in couple years. Never mind over last 6 months I’ve maxed out contributions to 401k & Roth & added nearly $40k to investments, paid $30k towards my $40k truck, and taken any remaining debt to under $10k. Let’s see her bank account, then her credit score, student loan debt, retirement savings, and background check. Tired of these strong/independent women who make their own money but can’t manage it. Met one recently who felt so superior because she bought a home that went up in value, but she’s house poor with no savings of any kind plus student loan debt she assumes will be forgiven because “they have to” Delusional.

Bill Washinski

Opposites attract in physics, which is the science of matter, motion, and energy.

Kerry Blaser

That is exactly what I am saying. Thank you for clarifying. Emotional intimacy isn't fixing his problems. It is holding space for him that isn't judgmental or controlling when he is struggling. Modern women fail here often because they are in their masculine energy, so I understand why men are very careful here. Emotional intimacy is also providing feedback about how he can love and appreciate himself more, i.e. improved self-care. That should be communicated discretely from a submissive position. I use my intuition to tell me what and when to say things to men. It is extremely helpful.

Kerry Blaser

Thank you for your response. I can't speak for him but how would you feel if a woman you respected and valued fully admired and appreciated you so much that she submitted fully to your masculinity/leadership? Probably, most men these days have never experienced that. That one experience met so many of my feminine, submissive needs. If someone had tried to tell me 20 years ago I would be soooo fulfilled by healthy submission in a relationship, I would never have believed them. When there are no public examples of how that feminine/masculine dynamic works in a healthy way, how are women supposed to know how to create that dynamic in a relationship? How many women would attack the image I gave above? If healthy femininity were modeled in society, they would understand that is a healthy dynamic and being submissive is an equally necessary part of the relationship. Women are the emotional (energy) center of a relationship. Women need to ground the energy of a relationship for the dynamic to flow in a healthy way. Women are trying to be men but how can women give birth, raise children and create everything in society like men? Population collapse is 20 years away, and women still want to be the same/equal to men because femininity isn't championed and modeled in society in a healthy way. Parts of feminism teach women that women can be "above" childbirth and motherhood. Why would I want to be "above" experiences in my life that bring women the most fulfillment generally? 42 year old career women with no kids or husband are the biggest demographic with mental illness, i.e. not fulfilled in life.

Kerry Blaser

But i also agree women SHOULD allow for tha emotional safty to atleast express emotion. Not to fix things for him or protect him but to allow understanding space. And assistance if so wanted, but at that point as a man, you are treading thin ice that may give way if the load you place becomes too big

Peter

Hear hear and at the same time I have to point out a point i disgree with Yes women seek physical safety with a man , they seek safty as a general. Including emotional. A man that seeks emotional safety theough a woman envokes mommy mode. Its highly had llok and huy unsatisfactory from a man to aeek any “safetly” from a woman Your mom protects you as a boy Not your partner as a man

Peter

I dont enjoy the mystismnand energy term. But the underlying point regardless the terminology is one i agree with. You are NEVER a man of high internal selfesteem, if tou get your value and quality cues from external factors. Things you dont conteol directly. You see your value in the mirroring from others , yoi are basically adicted to validation, an attenttion hoe Honest generous competentcy as jordan peterson puts it Your own genuine recognition of your competence is 100% in tour control.

Peter

That is a vivid description. Interesting and thanks for shring. I would LOVE to hear your partners take on this. His description, the full fat, dont have to spare my partners feelings, non PC version version Easier said than done. I know but the curiosity is still there

Peter

Oof shout out to us all the fine wine copers Its a severly bitter pill to swallow to accept (especially if you wanted family) you missed the boat Whats left is the genetic trash heap. Is that the faint wiff of a life long dispair. Could be. 🤷‍♀️ Maybe hope is the dialysis of the fine wine coper Instill look 32 but im super super fuhhing aware that im on borrowed time AT BEST

Peter

I recently got suggest a video by your old friend wheat waffles. And he was talking about the fine wine copers as he put it You have mentioned settling down later. A knod to the fine wine copers 😭 Lol the very next line you get into it I should finish videos before commenting I left things too long. Even though physically a look better than my 29 yr old cousin and im 40 . Im extremely lucky and timenis running out fast. Probably gone already…. But accepting you are basically ready for the trash heap as a human…. Its a tough pill to swallow. I defo didnt want this life. But unfortunately my cards fell the way they did… Fine wine copers unite 🥳

Peter

Men mature more slowly than women, biologically, so based on that alone men will be a little bit older when the settle down.

RhodiumMaiden

More like the LOINS want what they want, unfortunate, ‘independent’ feminist woman!

RhodiumMaiden

Completely agree on all counts & have had the same experience (thankfully limited) with players. They really do become disgusting once you understand what they’re fundamentally like - broken with bad priorities.

RhodiumMaiden

From what I have experienced, masculinity is earned. Probably a portion of it is inherent within me. But, the finished product of masculinity has to be created by one self. Fought for and worked on. The key to all of this is finding the courage to change. As for feminity, it appears to be something divinely given to women which can be squandered with unrealistic expectations or diluted by poor choices. To be undermining one self this way without realizing it must be the ultimate in confusion.

Mark Bryski

Since I am a woman on a forum with mostly men, I thought I'd share how I am fulfilled inside of a relationship. I NEED to admire my man. He needs to share my values, such as integrity, loyalty, compassion, paying it forward and monogamy. I am an intuitive healer, so I value a man who uses his masculinity to help others. A decorated first responder came into my life who is very gifted physically. I had a spiritual experience with him over the weekend that demonstrates a woman's need to admire her man and how that dynamic fuels a healthy relationship. Imagine a warrior in an arena holding a sword and his shield. His woman is sitting on the ground holding his leg and the other hand is inside of the dirt. Feminine energy grounds masculine energy. She holds onto Mother Earth to ground them both, so he can soar to Father Sun to bring abundance into their lives in the physical world. Her ability to create emotional abundance through emotional intimacy and grounding enables her man to soar. Seeing him through that dynamic was awe inspiring. So many parts of my authentic, feminine self felt seen and valued within that dynamic, and I was fulfilled beyond belief. I have to feel seen and valued so I can be fulfilled. I had to submit completely to his masculinity with utter admiration and appreciation to experience that level of fulfillment. Due to my traumatic childhood, I was unable to submit to a man in a healthy way which is so common these days with modern women. I was only able to experience that level of fulfillment because I healed from my trauma and embraced my authentic self. By doing so, I opened myself and allowed a man I value to see me submit in order to admire and appreciate his healthy masculinity.

Kerry Blaser

Since hoe math and girl math are common terms, I'd like to introduce energy math. Energy math dictates that what you attract into your life is an energetic match to your energy (emotional well being). Let's use the Fresh n Fit podcast as an example of how they aren't versed at energy math. Women who are willing to engage in a relationship, including sex, with a man who is unwilling to commit to monogamy are low value women. So, since players attract low value women into their lives for relationships, energy math shows that players are low value as well. Their inability to open their hearts to one woman and be fulfilled is a strong indicator of maternal, emotional trauma. They have mommy issues, so they attract their energetic match/opposite which are women with daddy issues, who have drama addictions. I'd argue players have sex addictions. So, why do the men on FNF promote themselves as high value men? They see multiple women as a right and an indicator of being high value, but I'd argue multiple women is a projection of their lack of self-value, because the women are low value. I heard a saying that a man's wife is like his business card. Would you do business with a man who made many low value decisions or with a man who made one high value decision? Myron states he will never open his heart to a woman. His inability to access his heart space doesn't provide a space for a woman to explore emotional intimacy with her man which is one main way she provides value in the relationship. High value women know they need emotional intimacy inside of a relationship for it to be healthy, so players aren't attractive to them. Several affluent players have come through my life in recent years. I was unable to engage further with them than talking because of their challenges with emotional intimacy and my challenges with accessing my femininity. I have overcome that now, so those men aren't attractive to me anymore, but I would love to help them self-reflect so they can see how they can love and value themselves more to become better versions of themselves.

Kerry Blaser

Since hoe math and girl math are common terms, I'd like to introduce energy math. Energy math dictates that what you attract into your life is a energetic match to your energy. let

Kerry Blaser

Thank you so much for championing monogamous, healthy, balanced relationships as a viable path to becoming the best version of yourself. The modern focus on independence has redirected people's focus to "individual" pursuits as if we ever do anything completely alone. We are never alone. I am "alone" in my house, but who built the house, who provides water for my house, who provides electricity, who made the furniture? We forget that we only exist in our current situation because of the participation of others in our lives. Once we acknowledge that reality, then we can examine how beneficial relationships are and how it is through the reflection of our opposite, that we have the best opportunity to see and access our most authentic self. In general, women seek physical safety with men in relationships, and men seek emotional safety with women in relationships. In committed, monogamous, healthy relationships, the woman is safe, so she can explore her femininity, which includes emotional intimacy like compassion, nurturing, vulnerability, and intuition. It is within healthy emotional intimacy that men can be safe to explore themselves through her reflection. Modern women aren't in touch with their femininity, so men aren't emotionally safe with those women. I understand why men are not dating in massive rates. They aren't emotionally safe.

Kerry Blaser

I love what you said about fathers. Hilarious and brilliant. I've never met a man who wanted to be a father like his own father, and to our credit, as men, we want to be better, always, and that's such a good thing.

Jon of Arc