PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Why are women so attracted to having a victim mindset?

In talking about men and women's rights, and the victim mindset that Alexander's video is about, it seems that the majority of the time we end up just talking past each other, because of hurt, and gender bias. These issues are real and should be talked about by both sides, but it has to be done under the lens of compassion, and honesty. Things that are not just or fair tend to stick out to me in life, as it stands out against my world view. I do stand for equal rights for both genders, and my arguments have been true, but I could change my aim to enlightenment, rather than squashing an opposing view. I just watched this following video and I saw a woman speaking the same truths I have, admitting to the same mindset I have witnessed here, and a message that I would say myself - a call for compassion and open talks. I suggest everyone watch this, but EC, if you are reading this I would especially like you to watch as well. I believe you may be open enough to admit that we are not all bad. Some of us men are just hurt, sometimes severely, and we're just reacting to the pain. Maybe it's time to try and understand this from a different perspective, a feminist, ousted by her own community for nothing other than trying to be compassionate. This close-minded view is what I'm trying to put a crack in. For 15 minutes, just hear her out, with an open mind. See if what she is saying is something you can identify with, and perhaps change if you agree. TEDx - MEETING THE ENEMY A feminist comes to terms with the Men's Rights movement https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WMuzhQXJoY

Andrew W

In Akira Kurasawa's "Seven Samurai" film, set in ancient Japan, a village besieged by a band of ronin is defended by seven samurai. One of the village daughters catches the eye of a very young samurai, one of the seven defenders. He likes her too, but very young, afraid to make a move, and doesn't know what to do. One day, as they were walking through a beautiful meadow, the young samurai keeping his distance behind her, walking in a field of flowers and green grass, the birds chirping, a sound of the babbling brook flowing nearby, she decides to get angry at him, turns around and really lets him have it, punctuating with a "Aren't you a real man?!!!", then promptly throws herself into a bed of flowers with her heart pumping in her chest, kimono - a mess, legs spread, body in open position, and rosy cheeks. The young samurai was taken aback, an open gesture and a proper scolding all in one! He must have thought, well what the heck is this?! Later on in the movie, the daughter's father would discover that she has become pregnant. So the samurai knew what to do after all. I think this scene is an allegory of the female nature. This is not a phenomenon of "modern women", it's just women. Men must hold themselves together and make it so that somewhere in the middle of the movie about their life, the woman gets pregnant.

Kirill Nadtochiy

Yeah we’re so uninterested in men’s experience that we pay AG 😂 Personally I pursue most of the time too. Not my ideal but one must seek out what one desires. And I like introverted guys.

RhodiumMaiden

Never been scared of men, personally. I don’t like disrespecting people in general but certainly no one I’m interested in romantically. Everyone wants to be appreciated.

RhodiumMaiden

This is such a female thing to write. Men pursue women. This is a fact. You, as women have literally *no idea* what men go through and you aren't even *mildly* curious! This is all I'm saying. Virtue signaling won't change this reality. It won't.

Kent C Johnson

Agree with Kerry; this a you problem, not a AWALT. Both genders can be severely flawed. There are also high quality men & women. You are what you consume & surround yourself with. Become who you want to be & attract others like you.

RhodiumMaiden

There was so many good things in this video. When I think of the victim mindset I have to mention all the male podcasts Fresh and Fit, Whatever and so many more. All the videos are about what women do wrong and not their role in it. My ex had the worst victim mindset and I believed him. Until I became the enemy I realized it wasn't the women it was him. I support many females trying to help women. I think going into female spaces has helped me unload many past relationship issues. You feel supported by other women and understood. The same way I think men feel watching Alexander Grace. But I would not air my dirty laundry for the world to see. Women mainly do this to help other women be aware if they encounter a similar situation. We talk to each other for protection, not gossip. The young girls hating on men need healing and a space to vent, not hate on men. The last women was gold, she summed up what feminism is all about. Feminism is empowering and uplifting women, not being man haters. She even got Alexander to do a mic drop. I loved this video, may we never be victims.

I am a man. I deserve love, and respect, and I will accept nothing less. The odds are stacked against me that I will find what I deserve, but I will walk this life alone, confident, and happy in my independence. If a woman wants to follow me she can, but she must offer love, and respect or she will be removed. Because I prefer to walk alone rather than being brought low by a woman that wants me to be on her level. You must walk on my level, with respect, and love, for yourself, and others.

Andrew W

My gender has nothing to do with how I attract the opposite gender into my life. Your view of the world is quite negative with you stating "I prefer women who are not obese. That leaves .001%." That statistic is completely detached from reality, which makes it clear that it is an emotional, reactive response on your part and not a logical, scientific statement. You seem to have a victim mindset and are projecting a lot of negativity onto women instead of taking personal accountability for the unhealed emotional pain inside of you. Since selfish women are the type of women you experience in your reality, why are you attracting negative women into your life? The answer to that question has everything to do with your unhealed trauma and nothing to do with women in general. The more I heal my trauma the healthier men I attract into my life. Only when I took personal accountability for attracting toxic men into my life did I see a shift in the types of men I attracted into my life. Please take personal accountability for the negativity (emotional pain/trauma) inside of you so you can stop projecting those negative emotions onto women in general and attract healthier women into your life/reality.

Kerry Blaser

That's legit but you are a women. There are many many men pursuing you while men are acting from a scarcity mindset. It's a different planet. I prefer women who are not obese. This leaves .001%. I guess what you are saying is that physically attractive women are more likely to have been traumatized? i would have to agree. You make it sound like if men weed out women who have been traumatized that there are thousand left to choose from. i can assure you that this is definitely not the case.

Kent C Johnson

It sounds like you are attracting modern women into your life who have unresolved trauma causing them to be selfish. Have you self reflected to explore why you are attracting unhealthy women into your life? What lessons are these relationships trying to teach you? It has been my experience that I attract people into my life, so I can learn lessons about my own self-limiting beliefs from those relationships. It is those beliefs, whether self-love or self-hate, that attract certain people into my life. I used to be an over-giver because I didn't value myself, so I attracted over-takers into my life until I learned how to value myself and not over-give. After I learn those lessons, I stopped attracting over-takers into my life. As I resolved more emotional pain, took personal accountability for my mental and behavioral challenges and learned my lessons, then the men I attracted into my life got healthier too.

Kerry Blaser

I commend you. Perhaps you could speak to a few of your fellow women out there? They certainly don't care what men think.

Kent C Johnson

I agree that modern women embrace solipsism, but healthy femininity isn't selfish. Healthy femininity models vulnerability, compassion, nurturing, caretaking and intuition and is generally fulfilled via healthy relationships. Feminine nature is about people, and masculine nature is generally about things, but when women reject femininity, like modern women, the ego is front and center = selfish behavior that seriously lacks personal accountability. When I generalize about a whole group of people negatively, I am usually projecting my own problems onto the group like the victim mindset does. When I do that, I redirect myself to self-reflect and take personal accountability for my challenges, so I can improve myself.

Kerry Blaser

I can assure you I watched the entire video and ended up with the same conclusion. Men are the only gender that can look in the mirror, accept the truth and change. Women are incapable of accountability.

Kent C Johnson

You've jumped to conclusions and missed an insightful video.

beret-doppelganger

I literally watched the first 8 seconds and didn't need to see any more. She''s done exactly what he just outlined HUNDREDS of times and yet never once has stopped to think why? I just defined feminine nature. AKA Solipsism.

Kent C Johnson

I believe women are sincerely scared of men. Yet, they are not afraid to disrespect men. This is an interesting contradiction. Myself, I have been an enabler of this problem. Mainly through maintaining false harmony when disrespect happens. It started with my mother and carried over to partners. I can admit I had a mistaken sense of responsibility for helping women feel safe with men by reigning in my masculinity. Maybe even suppressing it. Basically, make amends to women for what other men did. I have let go of this responsibility and feel like I am being reborn. I am now exercising my masculinity freely. At the same time, I don't feel the need to expel my nice guy qualities. My nice guy qualities are available to people, as long as they earn access to it. I am now at a point where it feels like I am putting my masculine qualities and nice guy qualities into a blender and mixing them together to come up with something new and consistent. In the past, it felt like I was being Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde when accessing my nice guy and masculine qualities. If many men are experiencing this Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde phenomenon with respect to their masculinity, it may explain why women are both scared of men and not afraid to disrespect them.

Mark Bryski

I like what you said about the difference between being a victim and victim mentality. I've heard lots of men say on YT "The world owes you nothing", but your idea of deserving love is compassionate. Thanks, that's helpful to acknowledge the trauma as injustice and move on. Cheers

Alexander Knight

They dehumanize men. It's awful

Alexander Knight

Just a thought. Maybe they really do believe insulting men is a good idea. Let's forget for a moment that they can get away with it if they want. But in their shoes, they like to be insulted and treated poorly. As a sign, they are approached by high-value men. So maybe they use the false equivalence fallacy. And think if they unashamedly bash all men they will attract the ultramacho men of their dreams. Heck, it probably is even working, because only guys that view them as sperm-sack would deal with that. Rinse and repeat until they get bitter and start believing it wholeheartedly.

Cezary Skoczek