PATREON EXCLUSIVE (Full Video): Women want control. Until they get it.
Added 2024-03-19 05:00:05 +0000 UTC
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Around 16:00 in the video when he's talking about, you might be able to work through her issues and end up with a good woman. I think some men will say that and think well I can work with her and she'll turn out OK. If she has early childhood issues, you are not going to be able to work through that, no matter what.. I've been there and been there for her consistently and repeatedly in every way. It's not going to happen. it's not going to happen because she's not even seeing you. She's seeing the idea she has in her head, based on her upbringing. My ex had nothing to criticize when we divorced, so she picked her first husband and kept saying over and over that that is what I was doing. I had to repeatedly remind her that that was him and not me. I treated her great.
warren beane
2024-11-18 10:24:58 +0000 UTCI'm wondering about that too but my last relationship was full of unhealed trauma and I'm not doing it again. I think it's fine to accept some minor trauma but I wouldn't try to fix anything that requires years of therapy/self-work. I think that if you are going to find a mentally/emotionally healthy person, you are going to bond over your shared future. Experiences like travels, solving challenges of life together and kid(s) seem like a healthier ways to bond than a childhood trauma.
aldon
2024-10-27 05:08:03 +0000 UTC@Mara - This makes perfect sense to me.
Joseph Omega
2024-09-03 00:41:07 +0000 UTC@E C - Another incredible growth spurt. Don't backslide now.
Joseph Omega
2024-09-01 04:42:38 +0000 UTCYou buried the most important part deep into the video. Bonding through shared growth. This is why picking someone that fits you well often means there is zero bonding going on, at least not at a deeper level. Only relationships that go through really tough times and survive through resolution, have true bonding that builds necessary long-term trust. I would have no idea how to even have a relationship with a girl that just fits to me. Like... How is this even gonna work? Why should we stay together? You need a project. Many projects. Projects you can't chose or avoid. And complete them together and both visibly grow and evolve in the process.
Mara
2024-08-19 04:31:51 +0000 UTCWomen want control over men they're dating or partners with, but not the responsibility or equal sharing of expenses. They want control AND money.
Roger Hayden
2024-05-23 04:29:26 +0000 UTCI agree, but the fear is that this is not what many/most women would think.
Joseph Omega
2024-03-23 08:52:35 +0000 UTCI believe if something happens to a man that shakes his confidence, that is not the same thing as a "failing/sinking island".
Matt Scoggins
2024-03-22 22:29:13 +0000 UTCI suppose if I am a slow learner, it will take a few quality women leaving me before I reach a good enough level to maintain a relationship 🙃I think I’ll show progress as long as I create a life with enough mental space to learn. I usually like to focus only on a few priorities at a time
Mack T
2024-03-22 21:45:48 +0000 UTCA lot of people say they want to change but it’s hollow. Some of those are incapable of change, but I think most are too demoralised &/or lazy.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-03-22 16:10:11 +0000 UTCIf you’re a really fast learner & are satisfying her in most ways, it can work, I think. But if you don’t show progress, that’s a problem.
RhodiumMaiden
2024-03-22 16:07:49 +0000 UTCI am not familiar with that statistic. How does it square with the one where women initiate 75% of divorces? And what do you mean by "sick"? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally? Spiritually?
Joseph Omega
2024-03-22 06:24:39 +0000 UTCVery risky. I know Alexander typically steers clear of personality disorders but I think it’s important to understand some issues can be so deep rooted they are effectively not fixable and that may be true even if the person wants to change.
Andy
2024-03-21 20:49:59 +0000 UTCIf you’re a guy from a dysfunctional family and you’re learning from a girl from a functional family, wouldn’t that ruin the masculine/feminine dynamic? It would be like the female teaching the guy how to lead and communicate. Then she is the leader.
Mack T
2024-03-21 06:58:00 +0000 UTCThis is really making me reflect how well-adjusted I am. Better do some thinking.
Thomas Owen
2024-03-20 16:16:04 +0000 UTCI think the point Alexander may be trying to make is that far FAR too many women do NOT "want to help in any way possible" and are NOT AT ALL "happy to help their men restore confidence." In contrast, the impression one gets is that men, in general, are frequently called upon, by women, to "make them happy no matter what"--that it is their RESPONSIBILITY to do so, lest they "move on", and regardless of whether the woman refuses "to try to be happy" of her own volition or not. It is the meaning behind the popular adage "Happy Wife, Happy Life" I believe.
Joseph Omega
2024-03-20 08:02:14 +0000 UTCThose women are called narcissists bro. As you said, "IF they had any empathy." No, they don't. They are narcissists.
Alexander Knight
2024-03-19 11:57:54 +0000 UTCWell, this certainly makes sense, and I FULLY_agree with it. But when you say: "What he needs at that moment is not attacking him and undermining him. At that moment he needs her support. When something happens to him that shakes his confidence, it's the role of his girlfriend or wife to build him back up again, to help him restore his confidence. It's her job to help him feel like a man again", isn't that role somewhat incompatible with the metaphor that she is a "boat" attracted and attached to his "island"? Isn't it then her DUTY to abandon a failing/sinking island, and sail away to find a stronger/more secure island? I suspect your "boat/island" metaphor may need some tweaking--some AGENCY, COMMITMENT and RESPONSIBILITY on the part of the "boat" towards that "island" to which she has anchored herself.
Joseph Omega
2024-03-19 08:52:10 +0000 UTCAmen, Brother Alexander.
David Ronin
2024-03-19 05:28:25 +0000 UTC
