PATREON EXCLUSIVE: Should women be jealous if their boyfriend looks at other women?

I love that you tldr the tldr of the long form. I do that exact thing too Its respectful and accommodating and pragmatic and forplanned and extrapolative To yourself and others Good show 🖖

Peter

To the questions at hand. Yes she should be a little jealous. ( mind you there is a huge difference between noticing glancing or gawking ) That shows that she is actually into me, and if she didn’t care at all, I would worry if she is actually into me and she should be worried about the same thing. In that, it is also incentive for you to practice self discipline. Even if you notice, it doesn’t mean you have to goack back at it. Also, it can be a great catalyst for a deeper discussion about why you needed what it does for you why she feels the way she does when you do. And how you can each act to be satiated without the other person having to pay with some negative experience. E.g. if you are not getting your sexual fill, it is perhaps a bit unreasonable to ask a starving person not to look at big plates of food…. And by that I don’t mean you’re a personal definition of are they getting there fill their definition of are they getting their fill. You will notice, and you will glance. I think it is virtually impossible over the long run to not do that. In the romantic honeymoon phase where you are absolutely burning for the one person, maybe not, but in the long run, I consider it extremely difficult and unlikely to never even glance at another woman. I’m not sure if I understood Matt and his expectation of progression bit I’m pretty sure that Alex, as well as many others have said you should not date potential. It’s a person is not enough for you as they are right there and then then it is unfair to expect that they are going to change into what you need in the future. With regards to not looking at other women or not looking at porn … not even recognising that other women exist was decidedly easier in the honeymoon phase of my relationship.. I only had eyes for her But as things often go, the sex got less frequent and eventually dried up and boy. Let me tell you I was down bad. That’s it, I’ve been more single, then I have been in a relationship and therefore porn watching had become chronic But three years ago, I decided on North app and it has been pretty easy to not engage in that at all anymore But also, I am single, so I have no desire to foster any sex drive as it would only lead to frustration which I definitely recognised in my porn usage after a while So many pretty girls, and I had none . I got to relieve some pressure, but the stark reminder of what I didn’t have, and so badly wanted was always saddening depressing and frustrating. As such, it was fairly easy to cut those feelings out of my day I do agree, though, that both parties should be somewhat accommodating to the other persons needs while having a deeper discussion of where this is coming from and why it is so important that this activity be done by the one partner or the other be at the see-through top or the porn watching, and if there is a way to satisfy either without the detriment to the partner Very powerful thought that fantasising about something is just rehearsing the actual act, the visualisation of it already reinforces neural pathways Very powerful implication I knew that sports people do this for sporting events, but I don’t know why I never made the connection to porn or cheating or what have you I don’t know if I remember if I understood the sexual debt concept properly Though the re-clarification that it is about getting to a point where you are wise enough to realise that no amount of kitty cat will satiate that sexual debt and desire is intuitive, and as far as I can tell, probably correct though the realisation that you cannot feel that pit comes to some at two others at 10 others at 1000 . It’s interesting also the concept that Matt mentioned recently about reaffirming in your bones that you are capable of getting woman and that until that knowledge is truly second nature that you don’t have a scarcity mindset mate, be another, positive of clearing your sexual debt

Peter

TLDR for TLDR: the only real issue is if your partner thinks they can do better than you.

TLDR: your partner finding others attractive is not a problem as long as they can recognize that you are the best looking person who they can manage to attract. The only real problem in your parter finding other people more attractive, is if they find someone who is MORE attractive who they view as available