PATREON EXCLUSIVE: What are the risks of dating before you are a high quality man?

You have to date, make mistakes, & fail with women before you can even become “high value” - and you must learn from your mistakes. Without knowing where you measure in sexual marketplace, you can’t know how to attain & maintain a status of high value. High value is not just money. It’s a combination of attributes that takes time to develop, and really, it never stops. Once you conquer one mountain, there’s always another. A man should date, but not marry, until he’s established himself with a track record of earnings, skills, experience, and ability to navigate & lead through inevitable challenges of life. Look no further than 2008 & 2020. Two times in just over a decade, the entire system collapsed and many people lost everything. You should always be prepared for a less than optimistic situation, and a plan for how to navigate it. If you’re not there, get there. Only then do you engage in longer term relationships.

Bill Washinski

I really enjoyed this video and the previous one alex did regarding this topic on YouTube. I have done so much work on myself, and it is now a good time to try to start trying things in the real world (if you situational, but very important things have to be so in order to really start seriously dating) Because I absolutely agree with matt You have to truly know it in your balls that you have options In my player days, I pretty much lucked out by the drawer of the numbers and alcohol. I am not confident in myself that I am able to generate attraction

Peter

If your gut is the heuristic shortcut of experience and wisdom, then sure But if your gut feeling is just emotional wims That’s not good Are you a wise person who can trust has got where are you reacted emotional person who can’t trust his gut….

Peter

I needed this video so much, I am currently having these thoughts of potentially being able to find a better partner while at the same time having what I consider a high quality relationship. There's so many things to consider that sometimes it's better to trust your gut imo

Rumpel

Did I dodge a question? Which one was that? I’m also less sure of the RP gospel that men in their 30s are in better positions than they were in their 20s regarding finding high quality women in their 20s. He might have more money and confidence, but as the generation gap increases, it starts to seem more like a cultural mismatch. I suspect most young women would prefer a man just a few years older than her with potential over a man 10 years older who is actualizing his potential. And depending on how BP you want to get, few men I know look better in their 30s than they did in their 20s, assuming they were relatively healthy. I’m starting to view the advice “don’t start looking for an LTR until you’re at least 30” as an irresponsible suggestion for most men

Great discussion but slightly lost focus on the topic. Alexander asked the right question then Matt proceeded to dodge it. Of course a man’s SMV increases into his 30s and he might be able to attract a much higher quality girl than he is able to do in his 20s. The risk is obvious. What’s the best strategy?

Andy

Well...nothing is guaranteed...and...if you simply avoid the dating market and stay home you do become protected from the many inherent dangers such as getting run over by a beer truck. Personally, I believe the risk of getting run over by a beer truck is worth taking because of the opportunities for growth that comes from practicing what has been learnt. In fact, it has become fun and now I smirk whenever I see a beer truck.

Mark Bryski