Horimiya S2 Episode 7
Added 2026-01-01 18:27:24 +0000 UTCComments
(My more serious and relevant comment) It sounds to me like you guys are handling the bullying stuff pretty well. Sadly, kids learn by mimicking the behaviors they see, or by pushing the boundaries to test what will get them what they want, so if a kid is being mean, it generally means they are seeing that a lot around them and being allowed or taught that they can push the boundaries others set. This is why when studying linguistics, we talked a lot about intention behind words, and the power of words (or lack thereof) and something we discussed that I think makes a lot of sense, is that by gatekeeping words, or letting them mean more than just phonetics strung together to communicate intention, we are actually creating the problem of making those words even more harmful. For eg. In Japan, words like "aho" "baka" and "shi-ne" (Dummy/idiot/stupid for aho and baka, and die for shi-ne) have become practically wet blanket insults. Even if you say it with the worst intentions, they won't hit as hard to a Japanese person, because they are typically said in very casual conversation. However, we Americans see those insults and react with much more emotion, especially to shi-ne, interpreting it purely as "go kill yourself" so if we see a friend say that to a character, a lot of people will get upset because we assign that depth to those words. So ideally, it would be best if we as a society could diminish slurs or insults (especially curse words because those are only "bad" because of classism and racism trying to erase the Germanic side of English) to the point they don't effect people so badly, but then everyone would have to essentially agree to not get hurt when hearing those words, which is an easier said than done deal. If at all possible, the best we can do is try not to make them worse, but censorship in America has gotten SO bad, that we are increasing the taboo-ness and giving even more power to the words. Even all the censorship around serious topics that professionals have been successfully trying to normalize talking about, such as "suicide" "killed" "rape" "assault" ect. have gotten to a point that more and more people can't even stand to hear or mention those words, which means less effective communication about them, which then leads to making it taboo to even discuss and starts the problem of sanitizing, which is where people feel they aren't allowed to bring it up, and it also can make the words themselves feel more triggering and more traumatic to victims/survivors. There's a lot of interesting stuff about the power of words in linguistic Anthropology, but for the sake of time, I'm going to get back to my main point, but I do recommend looking into this stuff. It's really impactful. But ya, anyway.. so we learn to apply power to words, rather than the intentions behind them, which also covers styles of bullying where it's like "Nice hair" but they're being nasty, which is very confusing for kids. Or, on the flip side, it makes us feel more attacked or bullied than what's really going on. Kids see someone else achieving a result by the response to words, and that's how they start to assign power to it, then when parents try to teach kids empathy, they tend to tackle the word and not the intention behind it, which also causes some other behaviors that can mask or even make more sinister types of bullying, so it's a really weird and tricky game of finding that balance. I can't imagine being a parent trying to navigate that, because I have a hard enough time teaching myself about intention and balance or nuance lol. There's that extra layer in learning this too, that's like "well if this kid is learning behaviors like this, then they are exposed to it a lot elsewhere, are they being bullied or abused at home? Or witnessing abuse? Do I intervene or try to positively influence them?" Because say if that kid is being abused by the parent, and you as a teacher or parent of their classmate or whatever try to talk to them or their parents about it, that poses the risk of doing more harm to them.. like, I was mimicking my father's behavior at school, so my teacher ended up talking to both my parents about it when I got detention too many times. They ended up causing a massive blowup at home that could've killed my grandma (long story short, my father flipped out so bad, my grandma got involved to try and get me out of the house, which got her thrown onto the sidewalk in the front yard WWE style, and of course I blamed myself) so I completely lost trust and faith in adults. So it really is very difficult waters that we as a society aren't often equipped to handle well sadly. I think it also causes a lot of over-correction too, where we end up creating entitled little monsters who can get away with murder (literally, in a lot of cases) which is why I feel like the most sinister thing about today's culture is seeing the absolute normalization of bullying. 😮💨 I think now more than ever, it's so important to actively call out bully behavior and hold people accountable, but a lot of people just feel so fatigued or desensitized to it, they don't want to get involved. Or worse, people barely even recognize it as bullying. It's become glorified as "being honest and speaking my truth. I have the right to an opinion. Freedom of speech, blah 🥴" so ya, this topic really scares me honestly lol but after talking about this with my case worker, I have begun to try and not be one of those people who ignore it (normally, I'd run away and duck my head in the sand if someone targets me, and decide not to get involved if it is mild and targeted at someone else, excluding racist or bigoted remarks or big cruel stuff like that) so I've been using your guys' channel as a safer testing ground for learning to defend myself or others and calling out bully behavior both rationally and with space for empathy lol 😅 scary and difficult as an adult, so I really appreciate when parents start doing that with their kids young. Such an important life skill (P.s. when I say kids learn the behavior, I feel I should specify that they can be learning it from anywhere, whether from TV, peers, teachers, or anyone in the family. How bad it is also reveals who frequently they see/experience it, and points to some level of lacking education in empathy, either from the parents not being present enough, handling it poorly, or just excusing it, so good teachers will usually wait and watch for context clues about where they are picking up the behavior and stuff. Literally supposed to be the school counselors job apart from helping students navigate school grades and stuff, but.. I digress. Just wanted to make sure people didn't think I was suggesting if a kid calls someone stupid, that it automatically means their parents are neglectful or abusive 😅 actually, sometimes when people automatically assume it's the parents, it turns out to even be a teacher or some other role model figure that is at fault, because besides parents, the next biggest influence in a kid's life is their teachers and their role models so be careful about assuming)
Chels
2026-01-01 23:42:00 +0000 UTCOh jeez.. 😂 ya, me and my mom are both ADHD (she also has narcolepsy, which adds another layer of chaos) so we're SO BAD at following a string of consciousness that other's can't follow. She's better at explaining how she got from A to Z than I am unless she is entering REM mid-convo, so like recently, we were watching a kdrama about cooking and I was saying how I loved one of the characters, and she just starts suddenly talking about "swimming onions going down the trough to be used as weird bowls." 😶 apparently, she was thinking about a tiktok she saw where someone was doing some fancy stuff like the kdrama does, and a lady was using onions as bowls for soup but was washing them or something? Lol. Or another bad one with me, is when I am talking, forget to verbally finish a thought, then move onto the next thought, creating weird ass sentences that would never make sense to anyone not in the same mental channel as me lmao like "..and the people were arguing in the comments over it. That's why I hate... Loki (my dog) is singing with the sirens" 😅😂 did that one yesterday, because I was telling my case worker about the Alluka issue in HxH, but heard my dog in the distance howling with the lunch siren in the distance, and the poor dude looked like he was trying to solve a string theory equation Some cultural funny context over the cold hands thing with Toru and blonde-chica who's name is escaping me.. it's not totally normal or typical for Japanese people to be so touchy, especially not boy-to-girl (hence why there is so much more intimacy significance when they hug or hold hands) so the "funny" about the bit of Toru "bullying" her over the cold hands by grabbing them, touching her face, ect. and why she felt exhausted afterwards is that he's SUPER energetic and handsy, which if you're not used to, can be a LOT lol especially if you're someone that likes the person doing it. What cracks me up about this scene though is that knowing how weird it is for Japanese people to be touchy (for eg. we have something called "shoko hugs" in the family, because my aunt will hug us like how teens look when you tell them to leave room for Jesus at a dance lol) but then I met my friend in Osaka in person and OMG! Even I, an American, got so overwhelmed because he has such crackhead energy and will just straight up manhandle you like Toru 🤣 when he laughs, he slaps your back or arm with 0 restraint, when he wants you to move or do something, he'll just physically move you, and he just has none of the cultural qualms or barriers. Not even the ones Americans have lol just 0 cares about anything "polite" so I found that scene especially funny since it reminded me of being "bullied" by my friend 😂 just absolute hurricanes. If you think "aw, it means they're comfortable with you" no.. I watched him practically drain the life out of strangers in public too! And me with my social anxiety, I was like "😱 Nappi, nooo~" cuz like, at a live house (for concerts by underground bands and such) where people will sit in the back rows, he was just pushing people's shoulders and stepping over them (which, sounds way ruder, but really it's because it's so hard to hear and talk to people at those and while most people would go through the hassle of trying to get someone's attention and yell over the music, he couldn't be bothered apparently) and if anyone approached to talk to him because they recognized him, he would act like they're lifelong buddies and hug them, jostle them, shake their hair or pat their faces, then we'd walk away and I'll be like Me: "so, were they friends of yours?" Nappi: "No, that was my first time meeting them 😊✨️" Me: 💀 And ya, if you're wondering, all of this is considered very rude and aggressively obnoxious behavior lol 😅 he gets called a thug a lot, and what is so funny is that he really does look like he just got out of 30 years in prison for serial murders or something, has the meanest face I've ever seen when he isn't grinning like a golden retriever, full of tats and piercings, scars, has red, gold, or white eye lenses in at all times, and the villain brows from mortal kombat (•\/•) (like this) but he is the jolliest, happiest, sweetest, kindest soul I've ever met. I have seen him scar children because if they dropped their toy, he would go give it to them and pat their head and try to be funny, but the look of absolute fear on their and their parent's faces when he approaches.. 😭 ach du lieber. It's like Miyamura (when he was supposed to be scary with long hair) with the personality of Iura. He really is the anime character otakus think they'll meet when they go to Japan lol (even talks like Bakugo. Not hurling insults, but the fiery oomf behind the words and the types of words he uses that would be considered rude in Japan, with lots of yakuza R rolling, like "Oi oi oi! Na! Omaerrrrrrrrrrra! 🤬... I like your hair today 🥰") this is why I prefer Osaka to Tokyo lol the energy of the people there is so different (not his level, but still more casual and less stiff)
Chels
2026-01-01 22:32:09 +0000 UTCSawada and Miyamura's relationship is one of my top 3 in the show. They're basically siblings at this point. Also, if you'll remember, that scarf the other kids dropped is the same one her brother was wearing the one time we saw him. So it's gotta be super important to her.
wyggles
2026-01-01 19:26:29 +0000 UTCyea these are manga magazines and they contain a bunch of different chapters from different mangas that release weekly/monthly
ElijahLew
2026-01-01 19:20:44 +0000 UTC
