On Death and Grieving - Easy Update

Oh Ian, truly very sorry, I haven't been here in some time and wanted to catch up for E3 and just seen this, this news... sigh... I remember you were riding bicycles together with your dad and sister and that is the first thing that popped in my mind, your dad Ian, was and is so very proud of you Ian.

Steven

Thank you for your bravery in sharing your story, and your thoughts. Growing up I was closer to my grandparents than my own parents. I lost the last 3 of them over 4 years, with Granny going just five months before my wedding last year. You're 100% right: it sucks, it's hard... but it gets easier over time. To anyone else reading, I want to whole-heartedly second what Ian said regarding getting help if you're feeling lost... and even if you don't feel it. A trained mental health professional helped me get through the grief of losing my grandparents much more completely than I would have on my own, and still helps me now. 1 in 4 of us will go through some sort of depression or something similar (although in my high-school pack of 4 friends, all 4 of us ended up in that pool: go figure). Please, get help. It's not a weakness to seek help from a mental health professional any more than it is to seek help from a physiotherapist. Again, thank you Ian for your courage. My deepest condolences to you, your sister, and the rest of your family. L&R

Corrigall

Ian take your time and come back when you are ready to come back because we will still be here. L&R

L&R

Love you Ian! I can't imagine how difficult filming this episode must have been. Thank you for sharing your life with us and inviting us in to such a deeply personal aspect of it.

Nimbus

Love you, man. Grief is a strange beast. You have my deepest condolences.

love u dude!

Ian Patterson esquire.

Love you Ian

Ian, in 2013 my sister fought with my mom and decided to end her life. The 5 years following that my mom has decided to end her grief. I always struggle to tell my friends and family how I felt and for the first time in 6 years you gave me the words I've always thought and just let out a loud, "yep."

Eugene

Hurting for you. So sorry. Hope you can surround yourself with good things and good people.

Cloisterance

As of right now this video has over 21K views on YouTube, 3.1K likes and almost 600 comments...almost exclusively positive! the more people that see this the better and if it helps even one person, I think Ian would feel it's worth it. I'm glad there have been no negative comments here on Patreon like there were on youtube. L&R

JessieBlu

I'm sorry for your loss Ian. Condolences to you and your family from WV

My condolences for the loss of your father. Thank you for sharing your feelings and thoughts. While thinking back about the videos with your father, it truly touched me and I feel for you. I wish you well.

Henk Groenendijk

Thank you for everything you do Ian. I went back and watched Easy Update episode 15 and a tear came to my eye. Love you Ian, sorry for your loss. Condolences from Kentucky.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Jeff Udall

My Condolences Ian. :(

C.D. Hicks

I too lost my mom in 2012. I dread the day the other shoe drops. All my sympathy, Ian. Hang in there

Thank you for letting us know! I know a lot of allies were worried. You could of not done an easy update and just wrote what you felt but you went above and beyond in my opinion. Loss is not easy . I'm sending a big hug!!

Sekiro505

Sorry to hear man. L&R

Danni-H4

I'm very sorry for your loss, Ian. My condolences to you and your family.

Daniel Schwartz

Sorry for your loss. I went to something very similar now almost 2 years ago. This video really resonated with me, thank you for being so open. Take your time and when you are ready to come back we will be here.

Mark van Dijken

Like you said, stuff happens and life moves on. Glad you were able to be there with your dad to see each other off more personally though. Eager to have you back in our lives once you're ready too.

MBUN

<3

Tim, King of the Monsters

Love and Respect Ian.

Funerals are tough. I hope everyone you love is there for you for support. L&R

Sven Van Lathem

Condolences and major love to you Ian

Senku

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing this, Ian. My brother passed away a few years ago and there have been quite a few times when watching the Allies helped me through some very low points. L & R ❤️

Eddie R

L&R Ian. My mother is going through cancer right now, and I don't know how to deal with my situation well because of decisions she has made that has made my life worse. But it's difficult because I really worry about her. Your insight may help me. You're a very inspiring ally.

Zerinus

Thank you for this. Stay strong and know the love held for you. Sorry for your loss

Ian, my condolences. Please know that you're loved and that we beauty boys - and girls - will always be by your side ready to support you in any way possible. We all love you and wish you and your family the very best. We're all here for you. L & R

Daniel Ribeiro

When I first was introduced to you years ago Ian, I thought you were a wacky dude whose sense of humor I couldn't understand and I didn't seem to relate to. Over the years I've come to have profound respect for you. You are one of my favorite content creators, immensely talented and a radiantly beautiful human being. I have nothing but love and respect for you and I'm very sorry for your senseless loss. It brings me some small relief to know you're surrounded at every turn by those who love you, as I hope it does for you as well.

Jason Rumsey

Sorry for your loss. I guess all we can really do is to cherish the memories that we have of the ones we've lost. Stay strong! L&R.

Neuromod

Hey Ian. My dad passed away last summer and I'm still crying over it, it's really hard and I'm not sure if it gets easier but thanks for making something true and genuine. L&R and thanks for making this, his 1 year deathiversary is coming up this month.

Very sorry for your loss, Ian. Love & Respect.

Solertia

L&R

Ian, all of the love to you and yours. So sorry for your loss.

Stackhouse

Thank you for sharing Ian <3

Brandon K Gann

CubanLinx 1 second ago Love and respect Ian. My dad has cancer right now and I hope you realize that the fact you're going through this grief and choosing to use it in such a positive way can have a real positive affect on other people. I guess what I'm saying is - with respect to what you're saying about seeing the good in an overall negative event - putting out a video like this is the type of gesture that can exponentially turn that negative event into a positive thing. ALSO, this should be in a constitution: "Don't assault someone with your beliefs and make them have to coddle you if they don't believe the same thing." Thank you Ian.

Ian, you are ceaselessly an artist. Thank you so much for being so candid and honest with this community at such a painful time in your life. Love & Respect.

Max 'hisShame' Terman

Love you bud

Grazooka

Watched my mother die almost a year ago, and sometimes it still digs hard at me even with an outlook similar to yours. But zero regrets, and I'm glad Ian had the opportunity to see his father off. Thanks for sharing

Kirbu

I haven't watched this yet, but I just want to say im sorry for your loss. Love and Respect, Ian.

Andrew Chalmers

From the episode of Fiasconaughts that had your dad, Dr. Hink, playing The Burracrator, I loved your Dads personality, What a wonderful Dad you had Ian, and while my total heart goes out to you for the loss, I am glad you had such an amazing person as your father. I will always watch that episode (I rewatch all of them constantly) with Joy and a bit of sadness. Thanks for sharing him with our lives, I feel just a bit better for it. We love you man, do what you need to do and we will be here waiting for you when you are back. Take care of yourself, our loyal and strong ally. LnR4L ~Heidern98

Jeffrey Tessar

Sorry for your loss, dear Ian. Much Love and Respect in this difficult moment to you and the people that loved your dad.

Sorry for your loss. It was tough when I lost my parents. They were both sudden. I was working overseas and I didn't get to say goodbye to either of them. Time heals. I still miss them both so much. Please take as much time as you need to heal. L&R

LeeLore

Ian, I have a lot of respect for you. Thank you for taking the time to make this video. Condolences for your loss. I lost both my parents over the last few years and living on the other side of the world to them I had to grapple with a lot of guilt, but I wholeheartedly agree with you about perspective. It was maybe their greatest lesson to me. Again thank you, and sorry for your loss. L&R

fuyunotabi

My condolences, Ian. Much love to you and your family ❤️

Angeline Matos

I’m happy you got to say everything that needed to be said. Allies the world over stand right behind you, if and when you need us. Much love and deepest respect.

Keanu La'a

Damn man, this explains the absence recently. For whatever it's worth I'm certain you've got the unconditional support of everyone here.

Sasquatch

Sorry for your loss Ian. My mom found out she had cancer this year so were all thinking about what will happen next. It's hard to even talk about really. I just want to say I'm big fan of all the hard work you do at Easy Allies. Love and Respect for you Ian.

Shoulderguy

Wow what a hard video to make, Ian you are a very strong. I wish you and your family love!

All the love and respect I have to give. I'm sorry for your loss, Ian.

Tyler Travis

Love and Respect, Ian.

I'm going through some stuff and this helped me. Thank you Ian.

parapro37

L&R Ian

Chun Lau

Nothing but absolute love for you Ian. I can't imagine the pain you're going through but know you still have thousands of people who think the world of you every day. You're an inspiration for me to be a more creative and unique person everyday. Take good care of yourself.

I think Ian had the timing off on the Patreon post due to the time zone difference. I just set the episode live. -Bloodworth

Easy Allies

All the love from our family to yours my friend.

Brandon Patton

I can only assume Ian had second thoughts about uploading it and took the video down.

Splontot

Video unavailable for anyone else?

Colton Berry

Sorry for your loss friend :( L&R & condolences

So sorry for your loss Ian, can't express how inspirational you are for so many people in this community. Each and every one of us are here for you at this painful time, dear friend.

Love and Respect Ian. Total Respect for sharing your vulnerable moments and Lots of Love for support.

Even during this hard time, you still want to help others. You're amazing! Thank You!

Mikehook1

So sorry for your loss. Lots of love Ian ❤️

Love and Respect

Brandon Ray

Not sure whats going on but for some reason it's saying video is unavailable. I'll try again tomorrow. Without even watching it, my love and thoughts go out to you Ian. I've lost a parent myself, and theres nothing that makes it better other than time.

Owen

Much love for you and your family, Ian.

Kenny Montenegro

I was afraid something like this was why you were away. My deepest sympathies. You will always miss him but I wish for the hastening of the day when you can remember him with joy in your heart for having had him in your life rather then just the grief. I am so so so sorry.

Sarah Wampler

I know that pain all too well. Stay strong they live on within you.

Brandon Ram

Love and Respect

Rattslinger

I’ve suspected this was why you’ve been absent, which is why I’ve been sensitive to others demanding answers. We can see the kinds of people they must have been through who you are. L&R

Pixillated

Sorry for your loss. My condolences.

lots of love and support to you friend

BigTurkey

Love ya Ian. All my very best to you and your family.

Doug

Thinking about you today. L&R ❤️

L&R

All of the love Ian. ❤️

Dean Falletti-Velasco

You are so strong, Ian and we love you so much even if you don't know us personally

All our sympathies to you and your family, Ian. L&R

Eric Jackson